YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Co-Worker Is Bullying Me

I know I am not a "brown noser," but it's getting annoying for her to keep saying so.

Mar 12, 2014 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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How do I deal with an assistant who keeps calling me a brown noser? My assistant is an older woman in her 60s. She is very gruff and rude, and several people have complained about her attitude. In comparison, I am a younger woman, in my late 20s and with a much nicer disposition. Twice in the past she's called me a "brown noser" because I was very nice and sweet to a coordinator who can sometimes be demanding. The first time it was in more of a judgemental tone, but the second time was a little more jovial. I ignored her both times. 
Recently she called me a "brown noser" again. But this time it was at a staff meeting in front of my boss. The remark stemmed from my boss sharing how I took flowers to another coordinator who broke her arm. I also took flowers to two other coordinators to thank them for their continuous support of our program. None of the people actually work for us, but volunteer in addition to their actual paying job. Yes, they are very demanding, but at the end of the day they help us tremendously.
I know I am not a "brown noser," but it's getting annoying for her to keep saying so (even with a smile). I have not said anything to her yet, but  am trying to determine if this is something I address during her next evaluation or privately.

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