Sometimes, the person I consider my best friend says things I find offensive. In particular, they have made a comment pertaining to my sexuality - I identify as homosexual and if I comment on the attractiveness of a person of the opposite sex, the friend asks, "Are you sure you're not bisexual?" It doesn't happen all the time, but it occurs often enough to bother me. This friend has also said that she cut off two friendships (I am still friends with those people) because depression "made them too odd for me to be around". I have also struggled with mental illness.
I am not sure how to bring up either of these problems, because my friend is on the autism spectrum. When I try to state why I find these two comments offensive, they reiterate the same set of points over and over trying to justify their thinking. There are no apologies, just explanations that are even worse. I'm not sure how to tell this friend I find their statements offensive a) in a way they can understand/will respond to and b) without hurting their feelings in the process.
Have you ever had to talk to a friend about the offensive things they say? Write your responses in the comments below!
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