I am so, so, so afraid of aging physically. Every time I look in the mirror, I scrutinize my face for fine lines around my eyes and mouth. I seem to find new ones every week, despite my best efforts at moisturizing and protecting my skin, and I often cry in frustration. It's not that I think there's anything wrong with looking older, but there's this voice in my head that says men do. It says that they see me as worthless compared to younger girls and even resent me for daring to walk around in public when they'd rather look at teenage girls. My boyfriend says he'll love me and find me beautiful forever, and he's upset and hurt that that's not enough.
Does anyone have any tips on coming to terms with looking older? How can I convince myself that men don't all think in the way I described, and that if some of them do, I shouldn't give a crap about them? It's so exhausting feeling like this all the time. I'm 22, if that matters.
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