YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Do I Tell My Houseguest He Has Overstayed His Welcome?

I don't think we'd feel right about asking him to find other accommodations because he hasn't found a job yet, but I'm going bananas here.

Mar 25, 2014 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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My husband and I offered a friend of ours to stay at our house while he looks for a job. He moved across country after he and my husband graduated college a few years ago, but was not happy there, so decided to move back. My husband, being the generous friend he is, offered for him to stay at our house in the time being so he could get settled, find a job, and an apartment, thinking it would be a couple of weeks.
However, that was nearly 3 months ago and he has yet to find a job. My husband and I do not have a large house, it's about 1000 square feet and luckily do not have to share a bathroom, but it has become almost unbearable having someone else constantly with us. It has gotten to the point where we do not want to have sex anymore (because how awkward is that, to have a friend in the room next to you?). I don't want to be around him anymore (he can be a little crass and inappropriate at times), and we are both frustrated he isn't taking his job hunt very seriously, and while he is getting interviews, is not successful at them. He seems to think interviews are tedious and ridiculous, often mocking the people he interviews with afterwards, and mocking the entire process, saying how stupid everything is. I have a feeling he's going to these interviews with a "been there, done that, I know more than you, you're all idiots" mentality, and rubbing the interviewers the wrong way, from the way he describes the interviews he goes on. 
I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with this arrangement any longer, and my husband is starting to get frustrated too. What can we do? I don't think we'd feel right about asking him to find other accommodations because he hasn't found a job yet, but I'm going bananas here.

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