YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Do I Tell My Crazy Neighbor I Don't Want Him Over?

How do I tell him nicely that I don’t want him coming around (particularly with his cat) , calling me at 11 at night, expecting us to be BFF’s etc.

Mar 24, 2014 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I need SOMEONES help with dealing with a little bit of a batcrap crazy neighbour.
About 6 weeks ago, my car was literally written off by a tree falling on my car in the communal carpark. My neighbour (not immediate neighbour, but building next door), who I had spoken to briefly a few times, saw the whole thing happen and took photos of it. I gave him my number and email so he could give me some information to pass onto insurance. Now fast forward 6 weeks – he won’t leave me alone.
I’m 31 years old, live alone and to my own detriment I am  very friendly, smiley, chatty and will talk to anyone and make friends pretty damn easily. I work full time, have a boyfriend, and a very active social life. He’s 55-60, unemployed, has mental health issues, and lives in government housing.
Since my car got written off, he’s invited himself over to my place a few times (a couple of times I’ve just stood at the door and not let him in). A couple of others he’s just walked in (with his friggin cat!) and plonked himself on the couch while I’m wearing pyjamas. He hangs around for a couple of hours and just talks crap – he steers the conversations rather sexual which makes me VERY uncomfortable. He calls me repeatedly at stupid oclock (last night was 11:15 pm - most times in a week is 5 calls). I don’t answer the calls as I don’t want him to know where I am - I could be at home, or I could be at a friends place, but regardless I don’t want him to know my whereabouts. Since the last time he brought his cat over my cat has come down with a contagious fungal infection (seriously) which has cost me a few hundred bucks in vet bills – shes an inside cat so putting two and two together it’s the only thing I can think of. 
Is he hitting on me – kinda. He’s said multiple times that if he was 20 years younger “we’d be f*(king like no tomorrow”. Ew.
Moving is not an option as I’m on a lease – and yes I realise I’ve brought this on myself by being friendly and misjudging his character. How do I tell him nicely that I don’t want him coming around (particularly with his cat) , calling me at 11 at night, expecting us to be BFF’s etc. I don’t want to get the police involved as he could be harmless but its kinda getting stalkery? 

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