YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Do I Help My Alcoholic Fiancé?

I love him so, so much, and I'm absolutely terrified at even the idea of leaving, but I don't know how much more I can take of this.

Aug 23, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I have the greatest fiance. We have so much fun together, and he's so sweet and funny and adorable. But he's also an alcoholic.
He's been sober for about a month and a half now, ever since he broke down crying one night after a six pack. He said then that he was done with it, that he hated how it made him feel and how it made him act and he wanted to be healthier.
He's been battling depression and anxiety (and the whole alcoholism thing), but he won't go see a doctor or a therapist. Last night he was really depressed, and he started punching things and screaming and slapping himself. Everything I did to try to help him was wrong, and everything I suggested was stupid. He said the only thing that makes him feel better is to drink, and when I pointed how bad he said it made him feel, suddenly I was an asshole and he was sick of doing what everyone else thought he should do and "fuck you." When he said that every time he started dating a girl she tried to change him, and when I said "really?" I was being a smart ass and he broke up with me (momentarily).
We have this fight every once in a while, the one where I'm a controlling bitch and I won't let him do something that he enjoys and he breaks up with me. He always apologizes a few hours later, but I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can emotionally take it if he starts drinking again. I love him so, so much, and I'm absolutely terrified at even the idea of leaving, but I don't know how much more I can take of this. I'm so non-confrontational, and this is my first big relationship, so I don't even know if I should be being supportive and try to help or just walk away. I'm pretty scared either way.
Advice, please?