So, I've known a friend of mine for about 20 years now (most of it long-distance, we've known each other since high school). She's always been the edgy, "I'll-say-what-I-want-and-fuck-it-if-you-can't-take-a-joke" type, but usually we can talk things out and come to a common sense of decency. This time, though- it's gone too far. She messaged me with an invite describing the itinerary for her bachelorette party, and she's "requested a black stripper" to dance for her (white) bridal party to Beyonce tunes, followed by watching "trannys" (sic) at a local drag club. My usual response would be calling her out on her racist and homophobic behavior- should I use this as an educational moment or just bow out of the event?
How would you deal with this friend? Would you go to the party? Let her know in the comments below!
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