YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Do I Deal With My Friend's Racist/Transphobic Bachelorette Party?

My usual response would be calling her out on her racist and homophobic behavior- should I use this as an educational moment or just bow out of the event?

Mar 27, 2014 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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So, I've known a friend of mine for about 20 years now (most of it long-distance, we've known each other since high school). She's always been the edgy, "I'll-say-what-I-want-and-fuck-it-if-you-can't-take-a-joke" type, but usually we can talk things out and come to a common sense of decency. This time, though- it's gone too far. She messaged me with an invite describing the itinerary for her bachelorette party, and she's "requested a black stripper" to dance for her (white) bridal party to Beyonce tunes, followed by watching "trannys" (sic) at a local drag club. My usual response would be calling her out on her racist and homophobic behavior- should I use this as an educational moment or just bow out of the event? 

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