YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Can I Feel Better About Turning 30?

How did you all get over your turning 30 blues?
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How did you all get over your turning 30 blues?

"I swore up and down that I was not going to be one of those women who falls apart and has a meltdown over turning 30. I've been reminding myself of all my blessings, how I am right where I am supposed to be and that everything is looking up; I moved out of the basement I was subletting from my older sister three months ago, started grad school, paid off the car over the summer, am paying the bills mostly on time and overall doing okay despite some setbacks. 

I was doing good, but now that 30 is soon approaching, I haven't slept, thinking about all the stuff I haven't done, feeling blue and genuinely sad. I work a job I don't even like, I've yet to lose the weight despite changing my eating habits, and haven't been in a real relationship since undergrad. (For some reason, I keep thinking I'm in relationships when dudes apparently don't and they don't bother telling me they weren't looking for something serious until after I get attached.) I haven't been home (the Caribbean) in years, haven't been able to help family back home as much as I'd like, and I still don't know where I am going in life. I know I'm not unique for having these feelings and that it happens all the time, but how do I make my heart catch up with my mind and understand that it's going to be okay? How do I accept there are no rules for being a grown-up and that my version of 30 is as good as everyone else's? How did you all get over your turning 30 blues? Any bit of advice will be much appreciated. Thank you."

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