I Stopped Wearing Red Lipstick So Much And It's Hurting My Dating Life

Note to self: Look like you looked in your profile photo when you turn up to a first date.
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Note to self: Look like you looked in your profile photo when you turn up to a first date.

Hot hair? Check. Red lips? Check.

Hot hair? Check. Red lips? Check.

Although red lipstick is one of the greatest loves of my life, I’ve been cheating with chocolate-color lip gloss as of late. (Not entirely sure why; it just feels right, so I’m going with it.)

Problem is, it’s a huge disconnect to those who know me, as well as those who want to get to know me.

Case in point: I went out with a guy I met on Match.com a couple months back, and the very first thing he said to me when I walked into the bar was, “Where’s your red lipstick?!” (Another guy recently made a similar, slightly less panicked remark halfway into the meal.)


At first I assumed I was dealing with someone with a highly developed red pout fetish, but after coming across this study, I realized my red lipstick might have been what attracted me to him in the first place. (Come to think of it, I’m wearing it in the majority of my photos.)

To be fair, the study (conducted by NYU professor Adam Alter for Slate.com) explores the idea that men are more likely to be far more excited about messaging and dating (and wining and dining!) a woman wearing a red outfit in her profile photo, but I’d like to take it a step further and conclude that a scarlet smile counts as wearing red, too. Why?

Because not only is red lipstick supposedly synonymous with sex, it’s also renowned for exuding confidence, drawing attention to your mouth and ensuring you’ll stand out in a crowd. (Seriously, how could it not count?)

I always thought the main rule of thumb with online dating is to use a current crop of pictures that best represent the way you look now as opposed to how you looked in your glory years. Now I know that turning up to a first date wearing a similar makeup look to what’s shown in your profile photo could be just as imperative. (I swear I learn something new every single day.)

While I’ll never be caught dead in red (rhyme unintended) apparel, I’ll certainly be casting aside the nude lip look in favor of my signature rich red pout on future date nights. 

What are your thoughts? Do you find yourself more desirable when wearing red? And what colors are you wearing in your online dating profile?

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