So I'm in a bit of a pickle. I have been with my boyfriend for quite a long time now, and we've been talking about the 'M' word lately but we've decided to wait until after his brother's wedding for things to calm down so we're not stealing anyone's thunder when we do get engaged.
His brother's fiancé and I get along well at family events, but we're not independently close (we are very, very different people). Recently I was accidentally invited to her bachelorette party -- someone brought it up in front of me, and then I was sort of pity-invited because I knew about it. It was nice of her friend to think to include me (even if accidentally), but the truth of it is that I just don't fit in, or get along well with her friends, and the thought of going out with them is triggering my social anxiety (in a definitely-beyond-normal kind of way).
I'm torn because on the one hand, it's a special night for her, and there are limited spaces for attendees -- I would like to think I'm doing the gracious thing by bowing out and letting someone she's closer with attend. On the other hand, I know we will be sister-in-laws soon, and feel like maybe this is something sister-in-laws are supposed to be able to giggle about down the road. Maybe this is a great opportunity to bond and create a memory together (even if a slightly awkward one, where I feel very out of place and probably have to cope with my social anxiety all night).
Do I suck it up and go so that she and I can share a memory, or do I bow out?
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