how not to be a dick

How Not To Be A Dick To Your Roommates

I’ve bunked with self proclaimed sex addicts, shared a dorm room with a hoarder, and put up with all manners of bull-shiggity in the name of cheap rent in the big city.
Niesha Davis in
Relationships, how not to be a dick, roommates

May 20, 2013 at 3:30pm | 241 comments

relationships

I JUST WANT TO WATCH MY STORIES: When Couples Don't Like the Same TV Shows

It seems that occasionally, for my husband and I, the best kind of escapism is from each other.
Louise Hung in
Relationships

May 20, 2013 at 11:30am | 82 comments

jobs

Open Thread: What Advice Would You Give College Graduates?

I keep giving a ton of advice lately to kids about to leave college. Can you help me?
Mandy in
Relationships, jobs

May 17, 2013 at 4:43pm | 118 comments

orgasms

I Saw That Orgasmic Meditation Dude, I Saw My Friend With Benefits, I Had an Amazing Orgasm -- Can You Guess Who Gave It To Me?

I <3 orgasms.
Mandy in
Relationships, orgasms, fwb

May 17, 2013 at 3:30pm | 73 comments

dating

Man, I'm Totally Not Over ANY Of My Exes

I can't think of a single person I've broken up with that I'm legitimately "over" in the sense that I can still think about them without feeling a bit gut-punched.
Kate Conway in
Relationships, dating, ex-boyfriends, ex-girlfriends, ex-whatevers, getting over it, mopey kate is mopey

May 17, 2013 at 11:00am | 89 comments

how not to be a dick

How Not To Be A Dick To Your Roommates

I’ve bunked with self proclaimed sex addicts, shared a dorm room with a hoarder, and put up with all manners of bull-shiggity in the name of cheap rent in the big city.
Niesha Davis in
Relationships, how not to be a dick, roommates

May 20, 2013 at 3:30pm | 241 comments

relationships

I JUST WANT TO WATCH MY STORIES: When Couples Don't Like the Same TV Shows

It seems that occasionally, for my husband and I, the best kind of escapism is from each other.
Louise Hung in
Relationships

May 20, 2013 at 11:30am | 82 comments

jobs

Open Thread: What Advice Would You Give College Graduates?

I keep giving a ton of advice lately to kids about to leave college. Can you help me?
Mandy in
Relationships, jobs

May 17, 2013 at 4:43pm | 118 comments

orgasms

I Saw That Orgasmic Meditation Dude, I Saw My Friend With Benefits, I Had an Amazing Orgasm -- Can You Guess Who Gave It To Me?

I <3 orgasms.
Mandy in
Relationships, orgasms, fwb

May 17, 2013 at 3:30pm | 73 comments

dating

Man, I'm Totally Not Over ANY Of My Exes

I can't think of a single person I've broken up with that I'm legitimately "over" in the sense that I can still think about them without feeling a bit gut-punched.
Kate Conway in
Relationships, dating, ex-boyfriends, ex-girlfriends, ex-whatevers, getting over it, mopey kate is mopey

May 17, 2013 at 11:00am | 89 comments

body

My Mom Wouldn't Let Me Play Soccer As a Kid Cause I'd "Get Big Legs"

As long as I can remember, "leg stuff" as been a topic of conversation and controversy with my mom and me.
Louise Hung in
Relationships, body, body issues, legs, moms, family drama

May 15, 2013 at 1:00pm | 75 comments

dating

5 Things I've Learned From Dating Really, Really Good Looking Guys

"No, but he’s really hot," translates to "How did you trick someone like that into having sex with you?"
Chloe Sexton in
Relationships, dating, hot guys, advice, family history

May 15, 2013 at 12:30pm | 241 comments

alison freer

Alison Freer Came to xoJane and Then Emily Asked if Jane Had Sex With Alison's Boyfriend and Jane Said She Can't Remember

Remember that time Alison visited the xoJane office and her boyfriend told Jane he met her once before at a party with Jimmy Fallon? You will.
Mandy in
Relationships, alison freer

May 14, 2013 at 5:33pm | 51 comments

dating

The Great Online Dating Debate: I'm Still At It, Plus I've Got GREAT "Must-Read" News!

Still sexy; still single.
India-Jewel in
Relationships, dating, online dating, okcupid, Match.com

May 14, 2013 at 2:00pm | 156 comments

issues

Everyone Else Is Doing Something Great Except Me: When Our Friends' Awesome Accomplishments Leave Us Morbidly Depressed

Pretty much anytime someone I know lands a new book deal, after my initial feelings of being incredibly happy for them have abated, I think, “LESLEY WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU LESLEY WHY HAVEN’T YOU SOLD A SECOND BOOK YET LESLEY.” This is Erfolgtraurigkeit.
Lesley in
Relationships, issues, self esteem, insecurities, listening to Morrissey all day, Erfolgtraurigkeit

May 13, 2013 at 3:00pm | 294 comments

friendship

I Love My Distant Friends But I've Realized The Importance Of Crafting Local, In-Person Female Friendships -- And I'm Doing Something About It

How many of us are using that ugly rationalization -- “Oh, I just have trouble making female friends; men like me better than women do” -- to justify an existence against our own self-interest?
Haley B. Elkins in
Relationships, friendship, feminisms

May 10, 2013 at 5:00pm | 145 comments

older men

Should I Date This Guy Who's 18 Years Older Than Me -- With Kids?

Has anyone dated a man old enough to be your young dad?
Olga in
Relationships, older men, dating, help me, age

May 10, 2013 at 12:00pm | 315 comments

relationships

I'm Worth More Than 20 Tacos -- And I'm Finding My Way To Self-Love After A Destructive Relationship

This is what comes from looking to the world to love you -- you cling to the first one who comes along and smiles; you don’t see him as the iceberg that cuts and sinks the ship; you mistake him for the raft.
Maurice Tracy in
Relationships

May 9, 2013 at 5:00pm | 70 comments

cheating

UNPOPULAR OPINION: I'm The Woman Who Slept With Your Husband (And I'm Not Sorry)

I wasn’t cheating on you, I was cheating on a system which is fake and outdated.
Noemi in
Relationships, cheating, sorry not sorry, husband, infidelity

May 9, 2013 at 12:30pm | 748 comments

sobriety

I'm Turning 30 And I'm Having My First Sober Birthday Party Ever (And I'm A Little Scared)

I love my birthday because it combines two of my greatest pleasures in life -- dessert and attention.
Emily in
Relationships, sobriety, addiction, birthdays, parties

May 9, 2013 at 12:00pm | 137 comments

issues

NO, I DIDN'T GET STOOD UP BY A DATE, I'm Just Eating In A Fancy Restaurant By Myself -- Is That Weird?

Yeah, so I spent a lot of money to eat by myself in an unfamiliar restaurant in a city where I don't live. And it was great.
Lesley in
Relationships, issues, solitude, introversion, introvert, delicious delicious food

May 8, 2013 at 2:30pm | 164 comments

48 laws of power

The One Quality I Look For in People More Than Anything Else: That We Both Have Each Other's Backs

Have you ever read "The 48 Laws of Power?" I was recommending it to a friend the other day who was incredibly stressed out because she received a review at work and said she felt "set up."
Mandy in
Relationships, 48 laws of power

May 7, 2013 at 2:00pm | 54 comments