writing
I pretended it didn’t bother me that he was traveling around the country on a national book tour while I sat home, proofing press releases and posting his TV and radio links on Facebook.
my brown baby
I’m certainly not immune to the darts and foolery that come my way. It hurts sometimes.
reality shows
And believe me, they're not glamorous. They're also not "real."
writing
I really DO love the idea of setting time aside to write everyday. However, like most people, there are certain other things I have to do, like going to work and reading Internet comments.
in

Feb 10, 2014 at 5:00pm | 113 comments

zen
The MacBook is dead; long live the MacBook.
in

Jan 27, 2014 at 10:00am | 72 comments

pitching
Here's my best attempt to encapsulate what I've seen work -- and not work -- in pitching editors at various media outlets.
in

Jan 12, 2014 at 11:00am | 40 comments

sandra bullock
Maybe the reason it was so hard to get any information about Sandra Bullock’s life in Austin was that Sandra Bullock did not want anyone to know anything about Sandra Bullock’s life in Austin.
career
I was proud of my decision to follow my passion, forgo a more stable job and write full-time. But other people's reactions to that news weren't quite what I was expecting.
single
When you read glowing write-ups of sexy couples destinations, it's quite likely that said reviews were quite likely written by a single, bitter potentially slightly jaded travel writer. Like me.
music festivals
I suffer from claustrophobia and history of an array of anxiety disorders, even typing about being caught in some sort of mosh pit is making me anxious.
language
I, like millions and millions of other English speakers both native and non, can generally understand words and phrases that haven't come out of a grammar textbook.
cursive
I generally champion the preservation of cursive but it should never be a weapon used to dismiss people.
in

Jul 2, 2013 at 2:00pm | 159 comments

diaries
At least there was no Willow/Madmartigan erotica in this one. God knows where that ended up.
memoirs
Although I had kind of become numb to what I was writing about, I was still aware that other people would be at least a little shocked. Abortion. Gangbang. Orgy. These are words that get people’s attention.
in

May 16, 2013 at 3:30pm | 70 comments

wikipedia
My first reaction to this was “My stars! I am offended! I shall retweet this to remind myself to read it later and prepare to flame with righteous outrage!”
writing
Whenever people ask for advice before writing something for xoJane, here is what I tell them.
in

Apr 3, 2013 at 11:00am | 61 comments

branding
Don't read what they say about you. Count the column inches. Cuba Gooding Jr. told me that once. SHOW ME THE MONEY!
branding
So you registered a Tumblr and Twitter with your unique handle? Great. Let's keep building your empire.
in

Mar 14, 2013 at 10:00am | 96 comments

career
When my hands look like they've been digging for diamonds, then I know something good is about to happen.
in

Feb 15, 2013 at 10:30am | 21 comments

guns
I was unnerved that some people didn’t just disagree with me: they wanted my very existence, my very humanity, erased, as painfully as possible, starting with my vagina.
nanowrimo
dating
I'm a confirmed extrovert who desperately needs some tips on becoming an introvert for the sake of my sanity (and everyone else's).