As an educated, professional woman, how could I be bankrupt and broke without somehow also being a complete idiot?
Sometimes what people refer to as “positivity” is actually denial. I’m all for having a positive attitude, but I have also battled major depression and I’ve had enough of people scolding me in the name of “positivity” if I express a negative emotion.
you are the advice columnist
sex education
In the Appalachian region, sex is still often linked to marriage, or at least reproduction, and the choices of teenagers without access to enough information can have long-lasting effects.
I am calling for an end to the kind of belittling situationally-poor people are subject to, because the struggle -- even though it doesn’t begin at birth -- is very real and trivializing it only serves to pull down a sinking person further.
Quit shaming single women over 30.
Time and time again, women’s sexual and reproductive lives and choices are labeled shameful by a patriarchal power structure that remains intent on perpetuating our inequality.
Everyone likes sports for stupid reasons. Even the loftiest of reasons is a stupid reason, because sports are inherently ridiculous.

Jul 3, 2013 at 5:00pm | 94 comments

I used to laugh at people huffing and puffing away on machines until the day I realised I was one of them.

Jun 18, 2013 at 6:00pm | 414 comments

cosmetic surgery
Two boyfriends, in the last two years, have asked me to get augment my behind. As in surgically alter it.
Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.
Because of my friend's comfortable shoes, we were denied entry to one of Paris' most exclusive nightclubs. Denied. Denied. DENIED!

Mar 14, 2013 at 2:00pm | 249 comments

Sometimes shopping isn't so fucking fun.

Mar 6, 2013 at 1:00pm | 561 comments

I am TOTALLY trying to make "elevator shaming" happen, you guys. This is going to be the next big shameful thing.

Mar 1, 2013 at 1:00pm | 568 comments

This post was written by a regular xoJane contributor who was too chicken to put her name on this story. Guess who she is in the comments!
Maybe not everything about us is necessarily worth embracing and accepting.
social media
Parents are tapping into that fear of embarrassment with a new form of punishment: public humiliation.
I honestly can't believe I'm even writing about this.

Oct 12, 2012 at 3:16pm | 566 comments

eating disorders
A recent survey has found that people with eating disorders may get more positive help from pro-ana communities than anyone realized. I'm arguing why banning these communities outright is a bad idea.
Did you guys know I've gained a little weight lately? No? Well, everyone on 5th avenue does.
body autonomy
It happened to me: I got groped at work. Against my will. And then I blamed myself for it.