While my peers swooned over the New Kids, I was wondering just how to go about contacting James Caan -- in my pants.
I’m trying to figure out why I’ve been alone this long, because I’m kind of sick of it. (And everyone at xoJane is sick of hearing about it.)
For years, I was too scared to disclose my herpes until after I'd already slept with a guy. But I had to learn to accept my STD before I could have honest, happy sexual relationships.
sexual attention
I DO find sexual attention immensely validating, and that plays into everything from the way I dress to my choice of career.
Ninety percent of the time, when I meet men in public, it starts with a conversation about my tattoos.
When I look at this photograph, I see an innocent young girl who looks stylish, comfortable and appropriate. Rules are rules, but I do wonder a little about the mindset of someone who sees anything else.

May 18, 2012 at 11:43am | 199 comments

OK, so I watched the L word, love JD Samson, and subscribe to both Bitch and BUST Magazines. That doesn't mean I want to have sex with women.
reclaiming words
Sluts are FUN! Sluts do whatever they want, whenever they want, and they don't regret anything. Sluts will do a lot for a good story.
Next we'll be requiring children to wear swimsuits in the bathtub. Which, as an *almost* never-nude, I'm actually totally okay with. (Joke!)
Saying that “all men cheat” lets men off the hook and reinforces untrue stereotypes about male and female sexuality.
When people discover where I work, they often ask “Would you let your daughter become a topless model?"
the frisky
The manager, a fat middle-aged man whose matter-of-fact manner made me uncomfortable copied my ID and gave me a contract to sign. Under my signature I wrote my new stripper name, “Delilah.”
When they’re old enough to handle it, they’ll know how and when I lost my virginity.
Perfecting the gateway into the subject of sexuality is tough. Say it too soon and you sound presumptuous. Leave it too long and you’re a tease.
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Some modern couples are allowing each other to have online flings, flirtations, and sexytimes despite being in a committed relationship. That's cool, but I wouldn't be able to pull it off.
gender issues
“Football Princess” seemed a fitting moniker, except for the lace dresses which I literally tore off my body. Who was I kidding? I didn’t want to be a princess. I wanted to be a mechanic.
I don't know what I expected when I told the people closest to me. A rainbow cupcake? Nothing prepared me for people's feelings of anger, disbelief and betrayal.
Being the token gay is easy. Bisexuality is a lot harder.
ella henderson
I remember, as a teenager, having a disagreement with a friend of mine when I wouldn’t call myself a feminist because I said that it implied that I hated men and I was terrified of being seen as anything other than a desirable, sexual being who just loved guys.