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rape
Understandably, those who have experienced the dark side of sex can sometimes forget that sex does have the potential to be incredibly joyful and pleasurable.
gender
It's a fast-shrinking group of people who still find the tale of the bold white man to be the most thrilling and relatable one available.
knitting
Privately, I wrestled with my own competing desires; I longed for a simple affair that wouldn’t threaten my notions of my own sexuality, the bedrock of my identity. Instead, things felt complicated.
sexuality
Something that didn’t happen to me: I didn’t have an orgasm. As in never.
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Nov 1, 2013 at 11:00am | 59 comments

cheating
Saying that “all men cheat” lets men off the hook and reinforces untrue stereotypes about male and female sexuality.
relationships
For years, I was too scared to disclose my herpes until after I'd already slept with a guy. But I had to learn to accept my STD before I could have honest, happy sexual relationships.
gender issues
“Football Princess” seemed a fitting moniker, except for the lace dresses which I literally tore off my body. Who was I kidding? I didn’t want to be a princess. I wanted to be a mechanic.
lesbian
Perfecting the gateway into the subject of sexuality is tough. Say it too soon and you sound presumptuous. Leave it too long and you’re a tease.
monogamy
Some modern couples are allowing each other to have online flings, flirtations, and sexytimes despite being in a committed relationship. That's cool, but I wouldn't be able to pull it off.
thought catalog
Although sexual harassment in the workplace is still illegal, behavior that’s equally inappropriate and psychologically damaging is allowed to operate elsewhere, pushed out of the office and into the streets.
the frisky
The manager, a fat middle-aged man whose matter-of-fact manner made me uncomfortable copied my ID and gave me a contract to sign. Under my signature I wrote my new stripper name, “Delilah.”
kickstarter
tattoos
Ninety percent of the time, when I meet men in public, it starts with a conversation about my tattoos.
celebrities
While my peers swooned over the New Kids, I was wondering just how to go about contacting James Caan -- in my pants.
sexual attention
I DO find sexual attention immensely validating, and that plays into everything from the way I dress to my choice of career.
nipples
Next we'll be requiring children to wear swimsuits in the bathtub. Which, as an *almost* never-nude, I'm actually totally okay with. (Joke!)
dating
I’m trying to figure out why I’ve been alone this long, because I’m kind of sick of it. (And everyone at xoJane is sick of hearing about it.)
ella henderson
I remember, as a teenager, having a disagreement with a friend of mine when I wouldn’t call myself a feminist because I said that it implied that I hated men and I was terrified of being seen as anything other than a desirable, sexual being who just loved guys.
sexuality
According to science, the most successful relationships have the highest amount of "nonsexual touching." Learn how!
disability
Some people pay for erotic services. Some people with disabilities pay for erotic services.
sexuality
I don't know what I expected when I told the people closest to me. A rainbow cupcake? Nothing prepared me for people's feelings of anger, disbelief and betrayal.