falling down
I am the kind of woman who once got stuck in a dress she was trying on at a store and had to be cut out of it by the sales ladies.
fat
I dug up four of my most unflattering non-selfie pics from the last few months. And I'm sharing them with you.
abuse
When you are abused, your self worth depends entirely on the approval of your abuser. In the absence of any sort of approval from my mother, I turned to men.
in

Sep 3, 2013 at 3:00pm | 94 comments

haes
The concentrated messaging the instant you walked through the door was that fat women could also be stylish and sexy, dammit, and if you didn't believe in the possibility of that, you were in the wrong store.
surgery
From 2002 and on, I basically never stepped foot on a beach and, if I did, I was always fully clothed.
mantras
Am I giving myself permission to be terrible, just by virtue of the fact that I'm admitting it?
body image
I offer the following proposal: maybe we should just stop trying to be hot.
performing
Know what I used to do for a lot of the day? Google people I was jealous of and hate myself. And then: repeat.
style
I spend a TON of time (and a healthy chunk of cash, I've realized) maintaining the face I’ve chosen to present to the world.
in

Feb 26, 2013 at 9:00am | 286 comments

blah blah feelings blah
I know, I know, I shouldn't depend on the validation of others to determine my self-worth. But sometimes I want to be the prettiest, damn it!
selfies
Being forced to take pictures of myself constantly started to breed more self-confidence, and looking at those pictures, I stopped seeing the things I used to see that I hated.
arm workouts
I've always felt a little self-conscious about my naturally muscular arms and shoulders. Instead of waiting for them to atrophy, I've decided to make 'em look awesome.
vanity
body image
Unlike men, women aren’t socially allowed to choose facial hair as an aesthetic choice and as part of their personal expression.
self-esteem
Something about dragging my feet around malls for hours while other people look at clothes makes me want to try to swallow a metal hanger. I can't be the only one who feels like this!
awkwardness
PLAN B: I'm going to invent a cocktail and call it "ASPIRATIONAL DESPAIR" and get reeeeaaallly drunk on it.
say something nice on the internet day
On this inaugural "Say Something Nice On The Internet Day," I feel like it's most important to treat myself right.
body politics
Sometimes, seeing an unflattering photograph of yourself can hit you like a punch. We’ve all had this experience, when our comfortable self-image is shattered by a photograph that looks nothing like what we expect. You can get over it.
nutella
radical anti-diet extremism
Some further steps on the self-acceptance path. Bonus: Nutella!
i am not a psychologist
You ever feel like nothing you do is good enough and someday someone will expose you for the giant fraud you secretly are? No? Oh. Never mind, then.
body image