When you slam Orthodox Jews because you think you're defending or somehow liberating the women of our communities, you're actually doing us a huge disservice.

May 22, 2012 at 1:00pm | 1232 comments

Please don’t console me with sayings like “God has a plan for you” or “They went to be with Jesus” when something bad happens.
Am I crazy? Repressed? Am I brainwashed with legalistic doctrine that I was force fed my whole life? Actually, no.
Yoga furnishes a textbook example of lifting something from another tradition, branding it as “exotic,” diluting and twisting it, and then calling it our own.
I kept waiting for my husband to take charge of the whole "raising the kids Jewish" thing. This was his realm, but it felt up to me.
I don't have to worry if my clavicles gleam like Kate Moss's, because the collar of my shirt covers them. I don't have to compare my thighs to Gwyneth Paltrow's, since I cover them with a properly fitting skirt that covers my knees.

Nov 9, 2012 at 4:00pm | 445 comments

I got into a fight on Twitter about sandwiches. Jesus Christ.
I was raised in a fundamentalist community that stood at the front of the battle lines of the ‘90s culture wars. Cameron’s description of matrimonial bliss is all too familiar.

Jan 14, 2014 at 12:00pm | 412 comments

christian science
I have abnormally acute mental control over my body. I can talk myself out of being sick, almost every time. Cuts and scratches heal very quickly on me.
It’s been four years since I left my family, my friends, my community the only world I had ever known the Westboro Baptist Church (WBC).
Should I have asked her, politely, to stop with all the religious talk? Am I overreacting?
If people look at you and think, “Please don’t let her be on my plane,” you’re gonna have a bad time.
Who wants to talk about abortion at a wedding? Just about everyone at this wedding.
I met a man I loved -– his name is Ben and he happens to be a Modern Orthodox Jew.
I was locked in an exam room at my optometrist’s office, and I was about to join hands with two technicians and the doctor while they forced me to pray to Jesus.
I knew I would lose most of my friends when I became an atheist, and it took me about three years to be able to publicly admit my new belief. I'm still nervous.
I know not all cults are as extreme as those examples and some groups are mostly harmless but the idea of group thought in general is still frightening to me.
Studies have shown that people who go to church are happier, healthier and more optimistic than ones who don't. I'm an atheist, but count me in.
slut shaming
One day, about a year-and-a-half after I had started working for my boss, he called my father at work and asked to come in for a meeting, one Christian man to another.
“April 5, 2012, 9:27 a.m. I was putting the pedal to the metal down old I-75 trying to get to work so the Slave Driver at the University wouldn’t try and fire me again and God said, ‘SLOW DOWN, BOB.’ Sure enough, there was a copper just waiting by the side of the road to pull me over."
I’ve come up with a few tips for people who, like me, are religious/spiritual and would prefer to not make their non-religious/spiritual friends, family, and neighbors feel super awkward.