It's much harder to trace a black person’s heritage back to Africa or elsewhere before slavery.
the frisky
Her brand is built on a spectacle, and says something more insidious about American culture and its views on the Black woman’s body than her social commentary ever really can.
Acts of self-naming seem more than reasonable -- they’re self-affirming, somewhat instinctive and protective. They show an ownership of one’s own narrative. They make complete sense to me.
What if the resources available to My Brother's Keeper were instead used to eliminate male domination so young women and men could build strong alliances and fight racism together?
It's not merely that racism is still rampant in America -- it's that your reaction to it matters.
interracial dating
This strong, entrepreneurial black woman, someone I could look up to and aspire to, was alluding to the idea that dating white men was somehow against the rules.
That narrative of dark-skinned pain is not everyone’s story, and it certainly isn’t mine.

May 20, 2014 at 12:00pm | 125 comments

When a white girl called me that word, I knew I should ignore her, but I couldn't.

May 13, 2014 at 12:00pm | 204 comments

Is there air-quoting going on in black comedy that I'm missing?
I can provide alternatives to the Avril Lavignes and Gwen Stefanis of the world, but then my kids walk out the door without me.
It’s never about one word, it’s about the intonations that seem to arise when having any interracial exchange.
When a white woman calls me "girl" or "girlfriend," she reminds me that my racial experience can be co-opted.
White people, could you please stop flipping out when the topic of white privilege comes up?
Rape has never been about seduction. It has always been and will always be about power.
Being a black woman is great. But being a black woman on social media can be a pain in the ass.
A black woman pulled me aside to tell me what other black women think when they see a white woman with a black baby.
social media
Here again, a black woman speaks her mind, especially on Twitter, and she’s demonized.
Matt generously introduced me to his grandparents and other relatives as his “friend.”

Mar 27, 2014 at 2:00pm | 192 comments

The Legacy Workout is a call for self-care and collaboration.
I will never look at that brown child with the white mom and make assumptions again.

Mar 10, 2014 at 12:00pm | 150 comments

It’s in the way I hear some of my older relatives refer to African Americans, criticizing them and calling them “blacks,” as if they are not black themselves.