estrangement
Forgiveness doesn't mean I have to remain in a relationship with her and allow her to keep hurting me.
fat
No matter what I do, or how mindful I am about my eating and exercise habits (without pushing myself into unhealthy habits), the numbers keep crawling upward.
in

Sep 2, 2013 at 3:00pm | 396 comments

mothers
I deal with the blame and shame on a daily basis. I wake up with it and go to sleep with it.
in

Aug 8, 2014 at 1:00pm | 301 comments

parenting
I would know, since I'm definitely not my mother's.
49ers
ihtm contest
My story is about what I went through, trying and failing to protect her and the tragic inaction by police, social workers and the family court system that created a nightmare I never thought we’d escape.
diaries
I remember how violated I felt as a teenager when I found out that my mother read my diary. There are some things that should be sacred, that are better off left alone.
in

Dec 26, 2012 at 1:30pm | 169 comments

best friends
Free life lesson: Don't get stoned at boarding school and tell everyone.
family
I made the decision to cut off all contact with my mother.
dating
I would get a boyfriend, and she would say, simply by eyeing the dude’s Facebook page, “He’s not right for you.”
menstruation
One woman brought me a coloring book full of vaginas, of all shapes and sizes; resplendent in their diversity.
elizabeth street
I thought I found a place to feel like a good mom, but boy, was I wrong.
mothers
I can honestly say that I’ve never wished that I’d been born a different race. It was only the illusive magic of beauty I wanted, beauty like my mother proudly possessed, the kind of physical aesthetic that transcended and bewitched.
mothers
ihtm contest
MySpace was the social media site of the time, and I thought maybe she had one. I began one evening to look for all the 16-year-old Nicoles in a 50 mile radius of where I was from
mothers
Seeing my mother struggle with parenthood makes me wonder if history will repeat itself.
you are the advice columnist
mothers
I would never know my mother. What I mean is I would never really know her as I would if she had lived and grayed and grew to view me as an equal.
mothers
I see her slowing a bit, looking less motherly and more matronly, and I realize mother and mortality are not terms I’ve ever truly considered together.
in

Jun 27, 2013 at 12:30pm | 70 comments

ihtm contest
She killed herself in 2008, but I think she would have done it a lot sooner, were it not for her unabashed love for me.
family
In an effort to help my fellow single mothers out, I decided to come up with a list of all the wonderful things that would make everyday life a thousand times easier. Here are they are, in no particular order.
family
I’ve never had a dad. And that is just fine with me, because the dad I could have had is one I would never, ever want.