The cups of consideration and understanding reserved for someone who “lost a baby” are totally different from the disgust and judgment heaped onto someone who “killed a baby.”
Staying quiet for 12 weeks while you grow a human being inside of you is nothing short of completely insane.

Dec 16, 2013 at 2:00pm | 209 comments

I have three birth stories I usually tell to pregnant women. But there is another one, and I am going to tell that story today.
One month ago, I was pregnant. One week ago, I became, very suddenly, not-pregnant.
This was originally going to be a story about how the book "50 Shades of Grey" got me pregnant. Sadly, it’s now about something completely different.
Apparently IUD pregnancies can be rife with complications. A tubal pregnancy is a major concern, as is miscarriage.
I had five miscarriages by the time I was 39 years old. I think with six you get an egg roll.

Jan 16, 2013 at 11:00am | 89 comments

At some point during those terrible first weeks I started regularly screaming, “I wish I would just have a miscarriage” during panic attacks.
I was so, so sad, but felt like I had no right to be. I had read so many stories about miscarriages in the second trimester, my grief didn't feel valid in comparison.
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He broke up with me the week before Christmas. I spent the next week holed up in bed, eating éclairs and watching Grey’s Anatomy. If I had been in a better state, I might have noticed I had missed my period.
With two uteruses in the relationship, I thought getting pregnant would be simple.
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My "hubby" didn't buy me a set of implants, as one person suggested. (What hubby anyway??)
"I just found out a friend lost her baby @ 8 mos, and I've been wondering what to say or do."

May 26, 2011 at 9:02am | 0 comments