men
Sometimes men in my life completely invalidate my opinion without even noticing.
in

Mar 10, 2014 at 1:30pm | 864 comments

dating
I’m trying to figure out why I’ve been alone this long, because I’m kind of sick of it. (And everyone at xoJane is sick of hearing about it.)
breasts
Thank you, kind sir, for letting me know that my boobs fall under the general umbrella of “large and therefore attractive.”
in

Feb 3, 2014 at 12:00pm | 436 comments

online dating
With every profile I scanned, one thing became abundantly clear: Men are bitter. As hell.
anti-women
I mean, this IS the most important thing to me, so, obvi, I know what I'm talking about. Also: Roxy surfer chicks try to actually surf. And it pisses a few guys off. SHOCKING!
relationships
For years, I was too scared to disclose my herpes until after I'd already slept with a guy. But I had to learn to accept my STD before I could have honest, happy sexual relationships.
issues
Women look sexy and feel sexy when they're being themselves. If a dude is turned off by my bold lip, wait until he gets a load of my bold personality.
in

Mar 1, 2012 at 3:40pm | 315 comments

chick crack
"I'm glad I didn't meet you in my twenties," I tell him. "Man, I would have been so stupid about you."
modeling
I had moved to London, got a visa, an agency, and ditched commercial season in LA against the advice of my manager to be with a guy I was in love with. At least I’ve learned my lesson about never relying on men for anything.
dating
I was having a drink with a friend the other night and we were talking about how, naturally, if you're an intelligent woman, the pool of men who are your intellectual equals is small.
feminism
Men were always wrong. Men were aggressors; men were rapists; men were stupid; men were obsessed with their penises; men were responsible for forcing my mother into a heterosexual marriage and motherhood.
embarrassing
God bless this guy. This letter is golden.
in

Aug 26, 2013 at 10:00am | 253 comments

dating
Oprah says when you find a pair of shoes you like, buy “A pair and a spare.” I tell my girlfriends to apply that method to the men whom they meet.
in

Jan 15, 2013 at 3:00pm | 248 comments

porn
This is written from the perspective of a heterosexual male (because we never get to hear their side of things, am I right, folks?!)
therapy
men
When the waiter comes, I know to automatically take out my ID even if he breezes through everybody else’s drink orders without carding them.
in

Dec 27, 2013 at 9:00am | 207 comments

books
My heart was aching for Peeta, I realized. My entire body felt emotionally anxious because of how much I loved his character.
friendship
I had a weird birthday. Instead of cake, I sobbed in some nachos, almost ruined a friendship and wore sexy skivvies no one saw.
in

Oct 25, 2012 at 1:00pm | 174 comments

beards
I once dreamt that Common, the greatest bearded man currently walking the earth, declared his love for me armed with a Chanel handbag. I distinctively remember wanting to touch his beard before I grabbed the bag
in

Jul 2, 2013 at 3:30pm | 157 comments

feminism
We need to talk about the men who claim to be feminists in public, but treat women like crap in private.
in

Jan 30, 2013 at 2:00pm | 149 comments

dating
men
This is the one "gender role-y" thing that my husband and I consistently bicker about.