When you slam Orthodox Jews because you think you're defending or somehow liberating the women of our communities, you're actually doing us a huge disservice.

May 22, 2012 at 1:00pm | 1232 comments

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Fewer women are taking their husbands’ names in marriage, but the real question is, if we’re “embracing feminism” so much, why marry at all?
I’m sure part of this is just a knee-jerk reaction from growing up in a big Mormon family in Utah as a tiny queer feminist and feeling out of place most of the time.
For every outraged indigence about "trampling" on the second amendment, with every word and breath, I am that young woman again, sitting in her truck in a parking lot, alone except for a 911 operator.
casual wedding
I always thought I’d be someone’s beloved long-term girlfriend or civil partner; my sisters thought I’d be a well-read spinster. Instead I’m a self-identified child bride.
elizabeth street
I am sad to admit that my husband and I have had sex less than 10 times a year, every year since our wedding.
Am I crazy? Repressed? Am I brainwashed with legalistic doctrine that I was force fed my whole life? Actually, no.
When I wrote my article, I included wedding photos that I had never shared online before, because of the way my body looked in them.
Love knows no borders. The British government does, though.
Even after ten years in a happy relationship, my boyfriend showed zero interest in popping the question -- so I took matters into my own hands.
Acts of self-naming seem more than reasonable -- they’re self-affirming, somewhat instinctive and protective. They show an ownership of one’s own narrative. They make complete sense to me.
I had to restrain myself from getting into a full-on white trash wedding salon brawl.
I've been married to my husband for 11 years, and I'm currently planning a wedding to my boyfriend, too. Yes, we're polyamorous. No, we're not freaks.
sex sex sex and love
I’ve never been good at guessing the end of books and movies. I guess I’m just not the kind of person who sees things coming.
Elisabeth was lying on her back on the bed, an unopened bottle of lubricant beside her. I’d packed it in the optimism that the aphrodisiac of travel would rekindle our lukewarm sex life.
I was raised in a fundamentalist community that stood at the front of the battle lines of the ‘90s culture wars. Cameron’s description of matrimonial bliss is all too familiar.

Jan 14, 2014 at 12:00pm | 412 comments

Porn bought me a couple of extra hours of sleep and probably saved my marriage.
When I hear another woman going on about her ring, her engagement -- I want to say ‘Stop that! Don’t let on that this stupid bullshit has any real relevance to us!’ Like there is some gender war going on and some women are giving up secrets to the other side.

Mar 26, 2012 at 3:00pm | 383 comments

How had my husband become the only man I'd ever known whose priority list didn’t include having orgasms on a regular basis?
Married or single, nearly all of us are tied in emotional knots. Hooray for us.