It’s still difficult for me to adjust to having male attention that isn’t rife with sexual undercurrents. It’s making me realize how I’ve become accustomed over the years to using my sexuality as bait for male attention.
ihtm
money
This working out our finances thing is a process.
facebook status
We already live in a world where women are taught to shy away from being viewed as openly complicated, flawed or messy in any way. Spending your days pretending to be an idealized self doesn’t help things.
virginity
Am I crazy? Repressed? Am I brainwashed with legalistic doctrine that I was force fed my whole life? Actually, no.
money
I'm only having nightmares pretty much every night and stockpiling ramen like I'm planning for the apocalypse. That's all.
marriage
Single people, but especially women, are expected to be in a constant state of partner-search, with all other forms of personal fulfillment considered second best to finding a lifelong mate.
therapy
Ladies, there is no Knight in Shining Armor.
music
Hearing it barely even qualifies as bittersweet for me. It just feels like any other favorite song.
wedding
I’m not going to say how much my wedding cost because that’s not classy or whatever, but I will say this: It was half what ever your wedding cost, and this is how I did it.
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Fun,
wedding,
marriage,
unicorns,
DIY,
budgets,
budgeting,
getting hitched on a budget,
the new york times
Apr 18, 2013 at 2:00pm | 334 comments
best friends
Ending a tight friendship as an adult is similar to ending a romantic relationship in that it’s a major life change.
sailboats
This is the one people ALWAYS ask about: Where do you poop?
marriage
I’m sure part of this is just a knee-jerk reaction from growing up in a big Mormon family in Utah as a tiny queer feminist and feeling out of place most of the time.
fat
Spoiler alert: we're still married, and I'm still fat. This is not an article about how to help your spouse to lose weight.
ihtm contest
I was over the wedding before I was over getting married, although that would follow soon after, the way one begins scraping off too-sweet icing before throwing away an unfinished piece of cake.
ihtm contest
Sometimes I think of how life would be if that day in September were just a horrible nightmare, and you know what? I don't want that life.
cohabitation
It had been 23 years since I last lived in a place without another person not blood-related to me also living there
ihtm contest
It took almost exactly a year of him living on the road, one year of nightly Facetime, and one year of people sympathetically saying “it must be hard,” before it finally clicked and we realized that the life we were living made absolutely no sense.
ihtm contest
John taught me that not every guy was like my husband. It was the push I needed to really see that life could be normal again.
snooki
Snooki tells us what post-baby sex is like, why she plans to keep baby Lorenzo off TV, how building her dream house dictates when she'll finally tie the knot, the unexpected celebrity she just got wasted with in New York and whether or not she has any regrets.
divorce
My name is Demetria and I’m getting a divorce.
weddings
Just call me Steff, licensed to marry.
ihtm contest
In less than two months, he had gone from trying to have a baby with me, his partner of eight years, to actually having a baby with someone he’d been dating for two weeks.
