She was a new-ish friend, but the kind I wanted to keep.
If my patrons, the poor kids in a slightly wealthy town, need us for after-school snacks, computer access, and a sense of community, then the teen patrons of poorer communities struggling to keep their libraries open definitely do.
I am aware this is totally not news. Still, it surprised me.

Aug 6, 2014 at 4:30pm | 47 comments

I want my friends to have all the babies. ALL THE BABIES. Plus I can't wait to imprint on my friends' children and mold them in my image.

Jul 18, 2014 at 4:00pm | 78 comments

Maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him.

Jul 10, 2014 at 11:00am | 378 comments

what the parenting books don't tell you
One of the great things about raising a child, for me, has been to watch my son become his own person and form relationships with other people -- friends, teachers, caregivers, and step-parents.
Protecting grown-up time may be the best thing you can do for your children.
Another au pair told me that her kid had to switch schools because mine had bullied hers so badly. Then I met a neighbor who confided that her family had found the last au pair kicked out of the house crying.

Jun 20, 2014 at 2:00pm | 133 comments

Hating on kids and the women who choose to have them doesn’t make you a good feminist. It doesn’t make you environmentally conscious. Hating kids legitimately makes you a bad person.

Jun 4, 2014 at 3:00pm | 806 comments

Next time a child waves at you and shouts “hi!” EVEN IF YOU’RE EATING OR YOU HATE CHILDREN, don’t act like you can see straight through him.
what the parenting books don't tell you
If you do not want to throw a giant party for your toddler, it’s okay if you don’t.
mother's day
My child is completely dependent on me for her safety and care, and it's terrifying to love someone so defenseless.
I won't have a period party or buy cheesy books full of metaphors about "roses blooming."
I have nine sons and seven daughters, and I do not intend to stop.
open thread
Since I became a mom, I’ve said a lot of stuff I never imagined I would say. This one was so stupid I will never live it down.
When I was 8, I "confused" people with my gender too. Fortunately I didn't go to a school bent on forcing me to fit a narrow definition of acceptable girliness.

Mar 27, 2014 at 1:30pm | 88 comments

unpopular opinion
I’m surprised at how much my Special Snowflake attitudes have eased my transition into motherhood. Not only that: in the long term, I think they’ll make me a happier, more effective parent.
what the parenting books don't tell you
My son is not me -- he doesn’t like to read books, he is not shy around new people, and he is scared of absolutely nothing (including a bunk bed).
A lot of folks are very concerned lately that this habit is ruining our young women by making them sound like air-headed insecure simpletons. I strongly disagree.

Feb 25, 2014 at 1:00pm | 263 comments

unpopular opinion
Kids aren’t going to be traumatized by a stranger politely telling them not to do something that could potentially harm them, or is just a social norm.
Students face so many opportunities for division and prejudice in school -- race, sexual orientation, financial status, size -- are we now prepared to add one more discriminatory checkmark to the list? Who gets to eat lunch and who doesn't?

Jan 31, 2014 at 2:00pm | 300 comments