I have nine sons and seven daughters, and I do not intend to stop.
The author of a new book about fertility delivers a hard truth: that biology doesn't always align with our rosy feminist ideals.
the frisky
I'm not using my childfree status as some kind of cover for fertility-related issues. Thanks for the knowing nods, concerned shoulder touches, and those links to support groups, but I’m fine.
I'm embarrassed to admit to you and to anybody that I'm not sure how I feel about babies at a time when it's maybe most important for me to know.
If I put my name on this, my conservative family will never talk to me again.
birth control
I find it incredibly empowering to have an intimate relationship with the ebbs and flows of my own cycle.
One novelist argues that having children makes women better able to write powerful feelings and relationships. I'm saying no.
fairy tales
I thought a week of teaching fairy tales to sweet little munchkins would make me want a darling of my own. Instead, it made me want to get my tubes tied. (Almost.)

Jul 29, 2013 at 5:00pm | 114 comments

In my new life I was sad (der), sleep deprived, fat, and pee just leaked out of what I assumed was my permanently broken vagina.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
“He’s going to take this -- wand,” I warn her, “And put it up your hooch.” Dashiell makes a terrible face. “It’s like he’s playing a video game. He’s going to get it up there and clear a screen of Ms. Pac-Man.”
At the age of 40, there was no time to dilly-dally. If I wanted biological children, I had to do something fast.
I think I audibly heard my oncologist breathe a sigh of relief when I outwardly told him my health was more important than fertility. Based on his reaction, I don't think that happens often.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
“So, like, you could make sperm from my stem cells?” I ask Maria. “Like, I could make sperm? And fertilize Dashiell’s egg?"
Every now and then something surges inside me and I think, that’s a feeling. But then it goes away.
If these shady drugs don’t hook me up with a belly full of triplets or at least one good set of conjoined twins within six months, I think it’s time to move on to the harder stuff.
Giving up my fertility was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make. For a long time, I regretted it.
A great Dad is really most certainly amazing, it is also a rarity, and so in 90 percent of the cases having no dad at all beats having a shitty Dad.
Rhonda’s back! She’s wearing sweatpants and some crazy shirt with a sunset…
My mother said, “Lorraine, you know you can’t have a baby."
getting pregnant with michelle tea
I am bizarrely proud of myself and immediately want Marina to hang out in the room praising me for nonsense all day. The best patient!
It only takes a three-minute phone call outside my preferred, sweet queer bubble to come up against an attack of fierce self-protective hate and anger at being provoked to feel low-self-esteem at the hands of a fertility clinic receptionist.
KNOW WHAT’S AWESOME? HEALTH INSURANCE, I tweet, feeling the sensation of my life changing as my life is being changed.