cat marnell
And I'd rather be on a rooftop smoking angel dust than writing this post.
terry elvis
I am living in a nightmare. I am praying that I can soon wake up to the words, "We found your daughter. She is safe."
father daughter bond
In New York City recently, a father showed up at his daughter’s school swinging, I kid you not, a chain and padlock, demanding to know who was having sexual intercourse with his daughter/
dads
Note to anyone wanting to reconcile with an estranged family member: Try an offer of coffee at 8 am.
in

Nov 14, 2013 at 2:00pm | 155 comments

children
Throughout my life, people said, “Oh, you’ll change your mind when you get older,” and for 30 years, my response has been the same: “If I do, please, please remind me of these excellent reasons why I shouldn’t.”
family drama
When in doubt, ask yourself if Lauren Hutton would wear it. If not, don’t put it on. (He loved Lauren Hutton.)
death
Then lunch time will come, but you won't feel like eating. You will instead feel like turning off all the lights and burying your face in a pillow for an hour, not for a real nap, but just to turn everything off.
porn
It almost seemed like my dad was doing the porn equivalent of making a kid smoke a ton of cigarettes as a punishment for catching them smoke, desensitizing me to the thrill of watching porn.
abba
One girl's (fictional) search for her father made me ruminate on my own. Or lack thereof. Because I'm so lazy!
open thread
According to some new "research," if your dad wasn't around then you probably put yourself into some sexy situations.
in

Jun 18, 2013 at 1:30pm | 88 comments

ihtm contest
What had been a complicated father-daughter relationship became an impossible one.
you are the advice columnist
illness
I couldn’t tell you how old I was when I learned to read or when we stopped practicing cursive in school, but I can describe the view from the upper floor of the Columbia-Presbyterian hospital parking garage in almost perfect detail.
fathers
Every year around father’s day I hear the message either directly or indirectly that you should call your father before it is too late. Well, I did that and we have not talked since.
fathers
My dad was biking along a busy stretch of road about 10 minutes from our house when he was hit by a guy in a van who had momentarily fallen asleep at the wheel. He died that day.
fathers
The night of July 8th my phone rang at exactly 11:36 pm. It was him. I thought to myself “What does this jerk want?” and tossed the phone back on the counter. The next morning I got a text from my older sister saying my father died.
parenting
I fully support men being actively engaged in their children’s lives and education. However, after working with families in poverty for years, I know that making broad assumptions that “one size fits all” is just not realistic.
careers
Being the priest’s kid defined me and my siblings even more so than being the children of a disabled person.
family drama
I was 11 days away from my seventh birthday and taking a bath when my father shot himself in our living room.
death
After reading this, I demand you go tell everyone you know that you love them. I'm serious.
stalker
I am 31 years old and I have never met my father, but that does not stop him from regularly contacting me online, calling me names and telling me how to live my life.
family
I’ve never had a dad. And that is just fine with me, because the dad I could have had is one I would never, ever want.