abuse
Artist/activist Chuck D’s recent comments about the NFL’s Ray Rice and domestic violence reveal the multilayered tradition of sexism within hip hop, even in the so-called good old days.
in

Sep 12, 2014 at 3:30pm | 50 comments

daddy issues
My father never knew how to express himself; I never knew how to tell him that I loved him
children
Throughout my life, people said, “Oh, you’ll change your mind when you get older,” and for 30 years, my response has been the same: “If I do, please, please remind me of these excellent reasons why I shouldn’t.”
father's day
As that new normal settles in around you, every once in awhile an event occurs that puts you right back into the heart-wrenching first moments of your loss.
parenting
I fully support men being actively engaged in their children’s lives and education. However, after working with families in poverty for years, I know that making broad assumptions that “one size fits all” is just not realistic.
my brown baby
terry elvis
I am living in a nightmare. I am praying that I can soon wake up to the words, "We found your daughter. She is safe."
family drama
When in doubt, ask yourself if Lauren Hutton would wear it. If not, don’t put it on. (He loved Lauren Hutton.)
dads
Note to anyone wanting to reconcile with an estranged family member: Try an offer of coffee at 8 am.
in

Nov 14, 2013 at 2:00pm | 155 comments

family drama
I was 11 days away from my seventh birthday and taking a bath when my father shot himself in our living room.
you are the advice columnist
fathers
The night of July 8th my phone rang at exactly 11:36 pm. It was him. I thought to myself “What does this jerk want?” and tossed the phone back on the counter. The next morning I got a text from my older sister saying my father died.
open thread
According to some new "research," if your dad wasn't around then you probably put yourself into some sexy situations.
in

Jun 18, 2013 at 1:30pm | 88 comments

fathers
Every year around father’s day I hear the message either directly or indirectly that you should call your father before it is too late. Well, I did that and we have not talked since.
death
After reading this, I demand you go tell everyone you know that you love them. I'm serious.
ihtm contest
What had been a complicated father-daughter relationship became an impossible one.
stalker
I am 31 years old and I have never met my father, but that does not stop him from regularly contacting me online, calling me names and telling me how to live my life.
ihtm contest
On September 11, 2001, my father disappeared forever into the dust and flames and papers that rained down on lower Manhattan.
porn
It almost seemed like my dad was doing the porn equivalent of making a kid smoke a ton of cigarettes as a punishment for catching them smoke, desensitizing me to the thrill of watching porn.
fathers
My dad was biking along a busy stretch of road about 10 minutes from our house when he was hit by a guy in a van who had momentarily fallen asleep at the wheel. He died that day.
illness
I couldn’t tell you how old I was when I learned to read or when we stopped practicing cursive in school, but I can describe the view from the upper floor of the Columbia-Presbyterian hospital parking garage in almost perfect detail.
weddings
There would be some years when he would send a birthday or Christmas card, some years when he wouldn’t. Months, and then years, would go by without a phone call.