cell phones
No matter how many screeds will be written bemoaning the effect technology has had on our socialization skills, facts are facts: Most of us are not going to be able to leave our phones in our pockets for an entire evening.
you are the advice columnist
I feel like not sending any acknowledgement of their marriage will be rude. Do I rise above the snub?
Why am I “depressing” or “negative” because I want to, as everyone does, talk about my experiences?
how not to be a dick
"I’m not a racist. I think mixed race babies are the cutest!"
trans issues
Don’t out people. Don’t out people without their permission. Just don’t do it.
gift guides
"I don't like this guy," I told a girlfriend of mine after she finally had sex with a guy she was dating -- and he proceeded not to contact her within 72 hours.
Nicknames -- or the use of nicknames -- need to be earned in my opinion.
Also, can we come up with something new to call them so it doesn’t sound like I’m going over to Donna Reed’s house?
how not to be a dick
Being nice is my preferred method of operating, but sometimes you have to push and shove to get anything done. Sometimes you have to be a little rude.
Don't whisper. Also don't shout. And if you... speak... like... this... I will punch you.
I’m not allowed to utter the words “run” or “exercise" without eliciting an intervention. Can I preserve my heart, please?
I didn't mind living in rural Tennessee until I had two black children.
I really just can’t be bothered to give one single shit about what I look like when I’m eating.

Mar 29, 2013 at 3:30pm | 142 comments

the internet
Sometimes I get freaked out if I have to call for a pizza, even if I know doing so will result in piping hot pizza. PIZZA.
I've taken up hot yoga. SWEAT EVERYWHERE.

Mar 26, 2013 at 5:00pm | 184 comments

There’s nothing cute about desperately clinging to the finer nits of adverb use and misuse, and there’s nothing noble about publicly shaming people for grammatical gaffes and typos.

Mar 11, 2013 at 4:00pm | 377 comments

clutch magazine
I offer rules for non-Black people to engage Black women without causing offense. If you can manage NOT to do the following, you can probably come across as a decent human being.
how not to be a dick
There’s no need for you to speak more loudly and slowly, enunciate more, or mime things when you’re speaking to me
Maybe I could have created an opportunity for us to have a really nice human interaction that would leave us both feeling better afterward.