I realized that my anxiety was not the result of a bad relationship. Mostly, it was there because I have been neurotic and change-averse my entire life, and -- surprise! -- nothing about my brain chemistry changed after my boyfriend proposed to me.
When I hear another woman going on about her ring, her engagement -- I want to say ‘Stop that! Don’t let on that this stupid bullshit has any real relevance to us!’ Like there is some gender war going on and some women are giving up secrets to the other side.