Because fat is viewed as inherently unworthy by a society that really needs to check its priorities, my dates and I have grown accustomed to evenings that involve being stared at on the train, in restaurants, and by neighbors.
Am I playing games or just trying to protect myself? Probably a little of both.
I kept wondering, Do we really have to allocate funds to purchase a strap-on instead of an airline ticket for you to meet my family?
I wondered if trashing my appearance was just his way of covering up his discomfort with the fact that I use a wheelchair, but he was certainly persistent in describing the things he considered to be flaws beyond my disability.
In the past, I've done every style from earnest to funny to sexy. Now I'm turning to you.
dating advice
Being eliminated from "The Bachelor" is life-changing in a “What the hell was I thinking?” kind of way.
The only attention we get from men we don’t already know is almost always from guys that were not getting laid in college, the ones who wouldn’t dare leave the house in leather pants. And that’s just fine with me.
dating outside of your religion
I met him while I was at work. He was forward and just charming enough for his approach not to register as negative on my radar.

Jun 26, 2014 at 2:00pm | 1740 comments

Let me be clear: We weren’t sleeping together. I mean, we were sleeping together, but we weren’t having sex.
Well, I didn’t technically live in a funeral home. It wasn’t my official mailing address. But I did spend most of my nights there. I did it for love. Trigger warning: centipedes (shudder).

Jun 20, 2014 at 11:00am | 72 comments

Normally, I’ll give the wrong phone number because dating is difficult -- even for women who don’t have HIV.
I thought that if this guy accepted me, maybe I could get finally get over the feeling of not being good enough in high school.
There was the blind date where I began convulsing in front of an all-you-can-eat brunch buffet. I never saw him again.
online dating
I would do all the introductory conversation, all the sorting through photos and profiles, and then simply tell my sister when and where to show up.
coming out
The phrase "coming out" almost always conjures a single big, dramatic reveal: You do it once. But that isn't the whole story.
The thing about being the only single person in your group of friends is that your alone-ness is on constant display.
Was I really going to uproot my whole life for this man and this place?
interracial dating
This strong, entrepreneurial black woman, someone I could look up to and aspire to, was alluding to the idea that dating white men was somehow against the rules.
best friends
By facing this sticky emotional stuff head on, and having an ongoing conversation about it, I’ve gone from feeling tense around these women to being able to count them among my friends.
At least when you’re dating a woman you can act as crazy as you feel.