I have nine sons and seven daughters, and I do not intend to stop.
Most of what I wanted was a reaction, because it indicated that I was the boss of SOMETHING. The bigger the reaction, the more fun the game was for me.
ying ying shang
Growing up, my given name, YingYing, was distorted in more ways than you can possibly imagine -- sometimes intentionally, sometimes not.
My sister and I did not talk for months. And then we did. What happened in between taught me how to deal with grief.
Oh, you know you have one. You use it at cocktail parties, I bet.

Jan 16, 2014 at 4:02pm | 625 comments

sesame street
I missed the diversity and acceptance of being surrounded by other cultures, so I was glad to be able to watch "Sesame Street" and feel that sense of belonging.
american girl
When my sister expressed her disappointment at yet another American Girl whose story differed so drastically from hers, I decided that for once: I could help her.
Seeing Miles Scott rule the city of San Francisco as "Batkid" didn't make me question my childhood Make-A-Wish choice one bit.
On television, in movies, in books and now with my dolls, black girls were always having to overcome crazy amounts of adversity with a quick wit and an even temper. These fictitious black girls seemed to be models of perfection without the requisite vulnerability to make them human.

Nov 18, 2013 at 12:00pm | 229 comments

Meet Anne Shirley, the original Manic Pixie Dream Girl.

Oct 20, 2013 at 12:00pm | 128 comments

chris brown
The hardcore workout venue is now offering classes for children. Some experts say it helps fight obesity and promotes healthy habits, but others think it's ridiculous.
gender issues
“Football Princess” seemed a fitting moniker, except for the lace dresses which I literally tore off my body. Who was I kidding? I didn’t want to be a princess. I wanted to be a mechanic.
Wasn’t there a time, before all this technology overtook our lives that we just enjoyed reading books?
family drama
I was 11 days away from my seventh birthday and taking a bath when my father shot himself in our living room.
stuffed animals
child actress
My mom likes to point out how many of the girls I knew from auditioning have now made it -- Natalie Portman, Hayden Panettiere, Anna Paquin, Jena Malone, etc. -- but I always answer that that doesn’t mean I would have.
Every night after our respective Arby’s shifts, my mother would crack open a Bud Light and scoff at these women on TV who spend their days getting massages and "working" on their hand bag lines.
Men were always wrong. Men were aggressors; men were rapists; men were stupid; men were obsessed with their penises; men were responsible for forcing my mother into a heterosexual marriage and motherhood.
Having been through treatment as a 10-year-old means that the 29-year-old me has a differently shaped worldview than your average 29-year-old.

Jun 27, 2013 at 2:00pm | 65 comments