thin privilege
A few days ago, I was accused of thin- privileging and fat-shaming. I’m still on the fence as to whether or not I did either.
fat shaming
To those who think shaming overweight people will “inspire them” to change, you’re dead wrong.
unpopular opinion
I used to think that if I just got really skinny, I would somehow magically like myself and stop hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror, but I’ve rapidly come to realize that this is a fantasy.
body issues
Or you might as well learn to enjoy being fat sometimes since you're going to be anyway.

Mar 8, 2012 at 11:05am | 229 comments

amanda de cadenet
Sometimes I wish I was living in the era of Marilyn Monroe. Fittings would be so much easier.
body issues
Slowly, I began to feel uncomfortable eating junk around Nick. He would be slamming down protein shakes, growing bigger and stronger, while I remained small and soft and unsure of what to do with this vast difference in body type.
Butter, sugar, and carbs aren’t really part of the diet of a real-life mannequin.

May 23, 2014 at 2:00pm | 170 comments

Weeks ago, the folks at Unique Vintage sent me this year's plus-size bikini. I had planned to wear it this weekend, imagining, in my crash diet mentality, that I would have dropped most of the 20 pounds I've gained since last year's bikini by then.

Jul 5, 2012 at 3:00pm | 167 comments

body issues
body issues
Is it the responsibility of doctors to watch their words to avoid upsetting patients? Or is their job simply to identify and communicate “facts” truthfully?
body image
"Look!" she says, innocently enough, "Your legs are like, twice as big as mine!" I never prop my legs up again, and from that one comment, I feel myself turning inward, trying to become smaller than I am.
body issues
I'm not fat and I'm not skinny. So what am I?
From fourth grade on, I looked like I was about 25 years old.
ask a sex therapist
Realizing that poor self esteem is ruining your sex life can be a powerful motivator.
Discarding clothes has revealed some pretty brutal realities, including the fact that I have wasted a lot, and I mean A LOT, of money on clothes.
After years of working to educate others about eating disorders and healthy body image, I realized there was something else I needed to do: acknowledge my privilege.
If I try to stand with my toes and heels touching, then I can't lock my knees. I suspect it is because my bone structure has been altered by a lifetime of obesity.

Sep 28, 2012 at 4:00pm | 103 comments

body issues
Did I ever tell you guys about the time I hooked up with a guy while wearing a fake butt?
I don't wear flip-flops in mixed company for a reason.

Oct 29, 2012 at 9:00am | 94 comments

gaining weight
Over 12 months of date nights, meaningful quality time, and copious amounts of PDA…. and over 30 pounds of body mass that I cannot account for.
body issues
Since the age of 12, I had been taught to burrito myself in a beach towel at all swimsuit-wearing times or wear an oversized T-shirt to protect the delicate fat-phobic sensitivities of those around me.