“Someone has come to me,” my boss said, “And they’ve got some complaints about what you’ve been doing with your face and your hair.”

Oct 10, 2012 at 11:00am | 351 comments

Without my hair, my eyebrows, my breasts, my beauty, I felt exposed in a way I’d never felt before – completely vulnerable, like a shaved deer in the headlights.
“You look great for your age!” Gee, thanks. And then, if the person in question is lovely and self-aware, it only gets worse: “I mean—not that you’re OLD—you’re totally not—it’s just—well hey, 40 is the new 30, right?” Please stop talking.

Jan 27, 2014 at 12:00pm | 186 comments

beauty standards
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised to spend so much time thinking about my hair. Especially for women (and even more especially for women of color), the performance of the right kind of hair, good hair, has real consequences.
gray hair
Sure, gray is the new black if you're a teen or a rock star. I'm a 40-year-old woman who's tired of keeping on top of her white roots for the past decade-and-a-half.
As a Puerto Rican woman, I was pressured at a very young age to get a relaxer. Now I really love my hair because it part of me, you know, like a package deal.
beauty products for guys
In South Korea, an increasing number of guys are wearing makeup as a form of professional advancement. I'd like to see that attitude make its way across the Pacific.
body politics
And it's all Kate Upton's fault. Plus: a short art history tour of the feminine ideal. In photoshops.
beauty standards
Of course we know beauty comes from within. But how do we actually carry that out into the world?

Nov 20, 2012 at 4:30pm | 80 comments

Emaciating people in photographs is ludicrous, but I also hate it when commenters and critics rush to call any photograph that shows a woman's clavicle or ribcage "disgusting."
truth in advertising
Legislative action isn't that powerful elsewhere -- why would this be any different?
beauty industry
beauty standards
How do you piss me off? Let me count the ways.

Dec 12, 2011 at 1:00pm | 0 comments

Even Dorothy Parker hated on freckles, saying "Four be the things I'd have been better without: love, curiosity, freckles and doubt." Dorothy Parker was wrong.