The first sentence? "Sports is not the first place that you imagine seeing girls unless they are cheering on the sidelines."
AIDS and a battle with body dysmorphia fueled a lifelong avoidance of intimacy.

May 1, 2014 at 12:00pm | 26 comments

comic books
If you’re not threatened with rape, you’re told you’re not qualified, you’re not good enough, you’re not welcome here.
game of thrones
Watching the horrifying scene was painful, but I felt confident that it would spark some sort of online discussion about rape. It did -- but not the one I was expecting.
Choe’s masseuse “Rose” may be fictitious, but we unfortunately live in a world full of “Roses.”

Apr 23, 2014 at 12:00pm | 205 comments

Nothing quite gets to me like walking into a restaurant or store and being greeted with, “Hello, Ladies,” especially when the person I’m with is male identified.
The sanctuary was home for: 5 woolly monkeys, 3 Barbary macaques, 1 patas monkey and 19 capuchins. All but the woollys were direct victims from the pet or circus trade.

Mar 26, 2014 at 11:00am | 53 comments

The Legacy Workout is a call for self-care and collaboration.
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I hate to admit that I was jealous of a three year old. Even writing it now I feel ashamed.
I’m pretty anti “pink” in sports in general.

Feb 25, 2014 at 12:00pm | 57 comments

300,000 people in West Virginia are affected by our chemical-laden water, and all I see in the news is Justin Bieber and figure skaters.
bodily fluids
If you look at me, you wouldn’t have a clue of what lurks beneath my novelty book-related T-shirt.

Feb 19, 2014 at 10:00am | 112 comments

health insurance
I am paying $130 per month for the privilege of not getting health care.

Feb 14, 2014 at 11:00am | 242 comments

Do you spend tons on your pets? Or do you think spending lots of money on animals is ridiculous?
To maintain my crochety curmudgeon "Never happy with ANYTHING" status, I'm required to tell you that these changes aren't perfect.

Feb 13, 2014 at 5:30pm | 111 comments

At 12, my daughter is no longer blissfully unaware of things like thigh gaps and juice cleanses.
But what about that dark-skinned black woman in their promotional video?! What about the picture of that black midwife hanging on their wall?!
the good men project
It felt sort of ick that the Beastie Boys seemed to be trying to stop the re-appropriation of their song to such a great cause. But there's a reason for it.
After reading the various box office number reviews for Best Man Holiday, the mantra for the African-American moviegoer this weekend should be: Can I live?
Rape is a lazy plot device that -- nine times out of ten -- ends up being handled in such a hamfisted way that it makes me throw things at the screen.
I never expected to go home with him for the holidays this year, nor did I expect any of our kisses to begin with Kay. But as much as I’ve seen photos of his family members and know their names, I did kind of expect that at least one of them might come to know mine.