I've written before about my complicated relationship with my own dad, so when I opened this reader's text today, my whole body got itchy with uncomfortable commiseration.
My hope for this week's WWJD column -- and this reader -- is that anyone who has had a difficult time with their parent or parents, however different the specifics are from this question, will leave her a comment in support and solidarity. Let's band together, folks.
Just so you know, because it comes up here most weeks in your comments: I always try to avoid, when giving advice here, suggesting that the person go to therapy. I always feel like people are coming to this forum partly because going to therapy can be costly and time-consuming and not always quick and easy to set up. It feels like shirking my responsibility as an advice-giver to just say: see a doctor or therapist. But sometimes that is, of course, the only answer.
Anyway: What do you think about what I told this sweetie? What big boundary issues have you had with your parent(s) or kid(s)? Have you ever suddenly seen your one (or both) of your parents in a new adult light? Let's get our familial boundaries on, y'all.