This is where I am right now. I feel TERRIBLE about what I did to Kristin here, without meaning to, while writing from my phone the other day. Thanks to your wisdom and thoughtfulness and empathy, I got to learn how sucky it was and that realization changed how I am going to deal with contributors to this site from now on and I am so so
thankful for that.
I really appreciate that you took the time to explain things to me as you did (for one example, the power differential part of the equation was not something that I considered in this context until now). I am really sorry to Kristin for talking here about what would have been a handful of edits (if she were willing) -- similar to what I've done to a ton of other posts on this site about people I do or don't know and who are famous or not -- to
an absolutely beautiful piece.
It is possible that Emily and Corynne (who were involved in this with me and were the ones I sent the text to from my phone to give me feedback and post and who have been writing back and forth with me this weekend) could also still not feel free to tell me how they REALLY feel, so that's confusing. Do know that I will be sucking up to
those two even way more than usual and that I love and appreciate them to death and any ideas for how I can ever repay them for their amazing work are more than welcome.
I think the world of you.
So, not related except that everything is, I just asked my grandma for advice on being so happy and healthy at 106 and she says: Look forward, not backward.
I know it will seem like I am using my grandma's occasion as some kind of bid to humanize myself or something but it seriously is just where I am right now. And I should stop typing now because typing on this thing hasn't turned out so positively for anyone lately and it's time for cake.
But first, the much bigger issue here: Homophobic language is not to be tolerated (OF COURSE) and that's why it's so hard to hear that someone you thought you knew at one time and shared these beliefs with could say those things -- and why it is sad and almost impossible to believe.