Ok, I Did Not Bring My Baby To Babeland... And Other Fish To Fry

An event at which I wanted to kiss everybody on the head, for sure.

Jun 28, 2013 at 3:57pm | Leave a comment

 

This is in my phone from the other night. Clearly I was so psyched to meet commenter MERE DARLING(!!!!!!!! and raulduke and so many other readers and commenters and contributors I've never hugged) that this oddly cropped photo is the only one I took on my phone. But you get the idea. I wanted to kiss everybody on the head, for sure. Except that dude hanging around with no name-tag on -- who was that guy?

I didn't bring Charlotte. I read all of the comments that had come in by the time I had to leave and she didn't want to go out before I even told her where it was. I've never been to a Babeland before and had no idea there would be visuals of fisting or whatever you were warning me about and what is a spreader anyway? Mostly, reading all of your comments, I felt very naive about what is sold in sex shops. I had thought it wouldn't be that different from this experience. (And I knew what Emily was going to talk about and do, so I wasn't worried about that part, but can see why you guys were based on how I hurriedly summed it up.)

As far as the comments that I did it as click-bait, I definitely jumped up and down when Madeline said I could bring Charlotte, not so much because I wanted to bring her but because "I can write a post about whether or not to bring her and that will let more people know about the event!" I probably danced a little jig in front of the rest of the staff at that point. So point very well taken. It turned out to be a good thing that I did ask though, because you gave me feedback I definitely hadn't heard yet. As you always do.

In the end, it would have been no big deal if she'd come with me (though I couldn't have known that, so again, point well taken). It was packed (like 800 people or something) and I didn't make it far past the door, where I just met one after another of you amazings and never saw a sex toy (something I clearly could stand to learn more about) and never heard even the word sex, much less fisting. Just saw beautiful faces and heard lots of talk about favorite xoJane stories and how the site has affected all you wonderful people.

Some of my favorite examples of meet-ups I heard happened there:

A reader bringing Annie some homemade pot chapstick. Another reader telling her she did her wedding make-up using one of Annie's tutorials.

A reader telling Olga this: "She stopped me and said she really admired my confidence and it helped her feel more confident about herself and gave her the courage to express that confidence without worrying what other people thought."

A reader showing Mandy that she keeps the prayer in her phone from this post Mandy wrote and she looks at it every day and has given it to tons of others.

A reader telling Emily, "I had anal sex because of you!"

So that's my recap of that event and I love you all for coming. And I love you all who commented, though it was really hard to hear criticism of the thing that is most important to me in life and on earth -- being good to Charlotte. 

And of course, as happens, I've got bigger (or other) fish to fry right now, like dealing with the fact that one of our contributors posted the most troubling and offensive comments elsewhere on the site. How are all the things in your life?

 

 

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