YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: I Am A Perfectionist (And It Sucks)

I've been like this my whole life and now that I'm a sort-of adult, I really want to address it and work through it.

Jul 24, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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So, confession time: I'm a perfectionsist and it's ruining my life. I constantly beat myself up for even the smallest mistakes, calling myself nasty names and berating myself so badly that I'm sometimes in tears. It makes it hard to branch out and try new things because I feel intimidated by the idea that I might fail. It's affecting my friendships, too; my friends sometimes find me hard to be around because I'm so demanding and I really struggle to relax. I'm even finding it hard to get involved with a new person that I'm wild about because I'm sure that I'll make a mistake and ruin everything.
I've been like this my whole life and now that I'm a sort-of adult, I really want to address it and work through it.  I'm not in a place where I can talk to a therapist or anything so here I am. Help me xoJane, you're my only hope!
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