My boyfriend is a nerdy fan-boy kind of guy. He loves legos, comic books, video games, science fiction and with that, he loves 'stuff'. He loves free posters of his favorite video games and movies, little figurines, ANYTHING with a pop culture reference, he feels he has to buy and display. He frames every poster, even the ones with promotional writing on them or really beat-up ones just because they have The Joker on them.
Trouble is, I'm not like that. I knew this would be an issue because when we moved in together -- I didn't have a lot of 'stuff,' decorative-wise. I like it clean and simple and only had a handful of articles referencing pop culture I actually enjoy, while he loves eclectic and busy and almost everything he likes has to do with a movie, game, TV show or superheroes.
We've been together for a long time but just recently were able to move in together, and as the months go by, our apartment shelves and walls are getting fuller and fuller...with stuff that only HE likes.
I'm surrounded by comic book and video game knick knacks and posters I don't understand or personally like, but I feel bad saying 'no, i don't want that hanging up' or 'do we need another figurine on that shelf?'
It's getting a little out of control. I'd say 80% of the 'things' in our house are pop-culture related, and 80% of that stuff is referencing movies/comic books/superheroes/video games that I know nothing about and am not interested in.
What do I do? I want him to feel at home and to have things around him that make him happy, but not at the expense of me feeling crowded in my own home decorated in a way that doesn't even look like I live there.
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