Would I have to start planning outfits around the tattoo like I plan for weather?
I'm a student of love, just a hopeless romantic trying to figure it all out. But when it comes to relationships, there is one thing I know a lot about and have gifted many times: diamonds. I'm a connoisseur of diamonds. My diamond-encrusted Tom Ford loafers created by Jason of Beverly Hills are probably my most prized possession. I actually set a Guinness World Record with that one!
I also have diamond turbans, diamond pendants, diamond watches, diamond cufflinks — and that doesn't even include what I have hidden in my safe. I'm obsessed.
If you haven’t seen it yet, "Why Real Is Rare" is a short docu-film where I got the chance to put on my filmmaker hat and do some investigative journalism in the world of love, interviewing couples to find out what makes their love real and special — just like diamonds.
You might be wondering how it made me feel to hear others talk about their love, especially since — and I know you were all wondering because there are a lot of rumors out there — I'm currently as single as I could be. But what this experience has made me realize is that there's no right or wrong way to love, there's no right or wrong way to show how to care for someone. And when two people are in love, how they got there doesn't really even matter.
Looking back on my own relationships, I realized which ones were real after the relationship was tested. Not to be too cliche or anything, but it's kind of like diamonds. Pressure is kind of what makes diamonds what they are, and when pressure is applied to a relationship, that’s when you find how real it is. And when you find how real it is, that’s when you learn how hard sustaining it is.
That said, it doesn’t mean that when a relationship fails it wasn’t real or that you should lose hope. Trust me, I have given more diamond rings than the average person! And, as you guys know, it hasn’t always worked out. It would take me six hours to sit here and tell you about all the mistakes I’ve made and what I’ve learned from them. I make light of the situation now, but every time I have been in that place where I felt like it was meaningful to give diamonds, whether a ring or a necklace, what that represented was like, "Yo, I’m ready to commit on another level. I want to give you the most precious stone on Earth.”
Before you buy someone a diamond, or let someone buy a diamond for you, take some advice from someone who’s done it more times than they can count. It’s important to spend some time doing some research so you can be confident you’re getting the best quality and cut rather than just saying, “OK, give me what’s in the window.” You want to be able to say, “Nah, I studied this. I understand the clarity, the cut, the color because this is meaningful.” Some of my go-tos are Jason of Beverly Hills, Jacob the Jeweler, and Ben Baller. I hang out with these guys because we have the same interests. I've learned so much from them. But you can’t ever go wrong with something in a little blue box from Tiffany’s. A diamond pendant or pair of diamond earrings goes a long way.
Even though I don’t have a specific someone in my life right now, I’ll still be giving diamonds as gifts for Christmas this year. There are so many people I will always cherish and care about. Love doesn't just mean one thing. And, of course, I’ll be spending time with my family and making sure it’s as festive as it can be for my kids. Because for us, it’s all about putting them first and making them the #1 priority. That’s what the holidays are all about.
Some people wonder how Mariah and I manage to get through the holidays year after year together, but we’re both mature enough to understand that people move on. Life keeps going. But at the same time, you can’t ever stop believing in love.
Look, I'm a spokesperson for the Diamond Producers Association, and it's pretty obvious I know a thing or two about diamonds, so here are some of my gift ideas for the holidays — which include gifts that special someone can get for you, or gifts you can give to someone special, something you can save up and get for yourself, or something that's just fun to gawk at and talk about.
Cartier Juste un Clou Ring Ring, Pink Gold & Diamonds, $3,800
Tiffany & Co. Tsavorite Tassel Earrings, So Expensive You Have to Call 1-800-843-3269 for More Info
Bulgari Serpenti "Inspiration" Bracelet, No Price on the Website So It's Probably Really $$$
Sachi Art Deco Chocker, $990
La Jeune Tulipe Diamond Dog Pet Collar, $150,000
Cartier Ronde Louis Cartier Watch (Men's), $35,600
De Beers Frost One-Line Bracelet, $12,900
Catbird Moon Phase Studs, $1,200
Sidney Garber Black Diamond Thread Ring (Men's), $2,900
Jacob & Co. Diamond Stallion Cufflinks (Men's), $4,827
Bulgari Serpenti Slim Bracelet, $19,200
Van Cleef & Arpels Perlée Clover Bracelet, Medium Model, $25,200
After this piece was published, it was revealed that Nick said some controversial things about Planned Parenthood. His statements do not reflect the views of xoJane or its staff. — xoEditors