YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Mom And Her Toxic Mom

How can I let my Mom see that's its not right that my grandmother makes her feel so badly?

Nov 25, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I need to help my Mom realize that her Mom (my grandmother) is a toxic presence in her life. My mom does everything for my grandmother- she cooks, cleans, does her laundry, buys her stuff all the time and my grandmother is never appreciative. My grandmother is able-bodied and always complains about how her kids "dont do enough for her." She only ever complains about how much more my Mom could be doing for her. My Mom is a sweetheart and I don't think she understands what healthy boundaries and appropriate mom and daughter relationships are like. I would like suggestions for books or articles I can show my Mom to help her realize her relationship isn't healthy. How can I let my Mom see that's its not right that my grandmother makes her feel so badly?  Thanks.

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