you are the advice columnist
I want to talk to him even though he seems hell-bent on shutting everyone out.
My sister and I did not talk for months. And then we did. What happened in between taught me how to deal with grief.
In spite of empirical data proving African-American fathers are just as involved with their children as other dads—whether they live with them or not—the myth that Black fathers are derelict in their duty persists.
When we toasted, I made sure they understood—really understood—what our fancy dinner date was all about.
what the parenting books don't tell you
I've become A mother, sure, but I don't think I'll ever become MY mother.
Hating entire subsets of humans -– even if those humans are given to spontaneous crying fits, screaming in public, and pooping without warning –- is generally frowned upon.
I remember very clearly, in primary school, repeating the stories and articulating the knowledge that I came from a family broken by abuse.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
If you are a white person one experience you will have throughout your life is other white people saying racist things to you, in this super comfortable tone rich with camaraderie.
For my friends, methamphetamine is a plot device, a prop in a show. For me it has been the very real possibility that my brother would burn our house down while we slept.
Even on those hazy days when you laze in bed until well past the point of no return, if you play your cards right, you can still get the kids out the door on time.
You can get dinner on the table at reasonable hour after work if you get organized, shop smart, and have a serious plan for that precious action time between walking in the door and dishing up plates for everyone.
My dad can't hate the gays and still love me, right? Right?
the good men project
I have been married for going on fifteen years. I haven’t been on a date since the 1990s. And, yet, now that I’m a dad, I am now repeating the awkward behaviors that plagued my dating life, but this time, it’s with the moms and dads of kids my daughter likes.