I was unemployed and attending college. My husband was working full-time at just a few cents above minimum wage. We could barely afford ourselves.

Sep 17, 2014 at 11:00am | 678 comments

Yes, we share a bed with our baby. And it totally works for our family.
In my ultra conservative state, I could be sentenced for drug possession: up to five years in prison and a $5,000 fine. I could lose custody of my son.

Sep 12, 2014 at 10:00am | 540 comments

"You need to move on with your life, because I’ve moved on with mine."

Sep 10, 2014 at 2:30pm | 59 comments

What is it about a small change in a parent's appearance that makes a big, scary impression on a child?
There's that special space you get into where you're so hungry that nothing makes sense and you irrationally hulk out.
It wasn't until I grew up that I realized he was a crappy dad and husband.
aging parents
A new study says sons can barely be bothered to give their elderly parents time and attention when they need it most.
the good men project
We loved our son before we even met him, from that first agency call when we knew only his age and name.
back to school
I am not above "stealing" things from my kid. Usually it's more of a "borrow" situation, like that time I needed five dollars to tip a pizza delivery guy and I had to ask my nine-year-old for the cash.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
The thing about people guessing what you’re having, or being really, really certain about what you're having, is they have a 50/50 chance. Odds aren’t bad.
mother-son relationships
Any good feminist knows how to teach their daughters how to resist the patriarchy, but how do we teach our sons not to become part of the problem?
It wasn’t until I saw the obituary that everything sank in. The date of death was June 28, four whole days before anyone bothered to tell me.
After two years of split-up parent bliss, they told me over ravioli that my dad was coming home. I bottled up whatever unsavory feelings I felt because I knew only a spoiled brat would be pissed that her parents were saving their marriage.

Jul 23, 2014 at 5:00pm | 40 comments

We spend way too much time policing other parents and not enough time helping other parents and their kids.
gay and lesbian
When you love someone, you don’t give a crap about which sex they’re into.
drunk talk
Being in love is great. Trying to force the person you love to have a baby with you (right now) is not.
Maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him.

Jul 10, 2014 at 11:00am | 378 comments

what the parenting books don't tell you
One of the great things about raising a child, for me, has been to watch my son become his own person and form relationships with other people -- friends, teachers, caregivers, and step-parents.
One woman brought me a coloring book full of vaginas, of all shapes and sizes; resplendent in their diversity.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
When I finally polish off a big, fat jar of Vlasic dill spears, I gaze down at a pint or so of absolutely mouth-watering pickle juice. And I want to drink the whole entire thing.