mother-son relationships
Any good feminist knows how to teach their daughters how to resist the patriarchy, but how do we teach our sons not to become part of the problem?
family
It wasn’t until I saw the obituary that everything sank in. The date of death was June 28, four whole days before anyone bothered to tell me.
parents
After two years of split-up parent bliss, they told me over ravioli that my dad was coming home. I bottled up whatever unsavory feelings I felt because I knew only a spoiled brat would be pissed that her parents were saving their marriage.
in

Jul 23, 2014 at 5:00pm | 40 comments

parenting
We spend way too much time policing other parents and not enough time helping other parents and their kids.
gay and lesbian
When you love someone, you don’t give a crap about which sex they’re into.
drunk talk
Being in love is great. Trying to force the person you love to have a baby with you (right now) is not.
parenting
Maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him.
in

Jul 10, 2014 at 11:00am | 378 comments

what the parenting books don't tell you
One of the great things about raising a child, for me, has been to watch my son become his own person and form relationships with other people -- friends, teachers, caregivers, and step-parents.
menstruation
One woman brought me a coloring book full of vaginas, of all shapes and sizes; resplendent in their diversity.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
When I finally polish off a big, fat jar of Vlasic dill spears, I gaze down at a pint or so of absolutely mouth-watering pickle juice. And I want to drink the whole entire thing.
motherhood
I am not a mom, but I study them -- and the difficult work they do -- for about eight hours a day.
healthy
She buys me a new scale for every apartment I’ve had, the old one having mysteriously disappeared. Even today, we email each other our weights on a daily basis.
daddy issues
My father never knew how to express himself; I never knew how to tell him that I loved him
divorce
The very clear and simple reason I must strive to be a grown-up about this is because I have a child in the equation, which means I’m obligated to make it as amicable as I possibly can, whether it suits me or not.
cancer
Doctors are suddenly very interested in my personal life the minute I tell them I am not worried about preserving my fertility.
divorce
If you have never been through a divorce yourself, you might not realize how the things you are saying might actually be making your friend feel worse.
getting pregnant with michelle tea
It is my suspicion that every little weird glitchy thing happening to my body is somehow related to being pregnant, and I don’t seem to be incorrect.
death
“Upon death, freeze the head,” read the bracelet on his wrist.
children
Throughout my life, people said, “Oh, you’ll change your mind when you get older,” and for 30 years, my response has been the same: “If I do, please, please remind me of these excellent reasons why I shouldn’t.”
moms
Long before she had me, my mom rambled around Baltimore in the ’60s with her friends John Waters and Divine.
parenting
As a non-binary person, as someone who indentifies as neither a man or woman, neither "Dad" or "Mom," what parental name is there for me?
coffee
how not to be a dick
"I’m not a racist. I think mixed race babies are the cutest!"