JULIE FINDS IT FOR YOU: Something Hot But Not Slutty For "A First Date With My Future Husband"

For the record, I wear the shit out of trends and actually enjoy confusing straight guys with my clothes, but if you're looking for a nice, reliable husband type, then tone it down.

Jan 12, 2012 at 1:00pm | Leave a comment

Hi Julie,

I am being taken on the most perfect first date ever on Friday, and I am seriously at a loss for what to wear. The boy is taking me to dinner and karaoke, which are two of my favorite things ever. He came up with the idea without any input from me, so he's obvs my future-husband and I need to look smokin' so both he and I understand how fucking awesome I am.

Anyway, the issue is that I want to look hot (without going into slutty territory), but I'm going to be dancing, singing and (UGH) sweating so I need something that is both flattering and doesn't show sweat. I'm curvy, as in big tits and child-bearing hips, and I'm kind of tall (5'8"). I would like to wear flats because he's not that tall, so if you can find something that would look good with boots it would be perfecto mundo.

Can you help a sister out? I'll totally send you a picture of the final product!

Love,
Katy

In Emily's article on "The Rules," she cops to believing in some of the book's tenets like not returning calls or accepting last-minute dates. Sound advice, no?

When I skimmed through myself, I thought the book was horribly depressing, but found one rule that I can reluctantly get behind. Avoid trendy clothing and instead wear simple, figure-flattering pieces that make the most of your assets. It doesn't matter how expensive your clothes are as long as they fit. 

For the record, I wear the shit out of trends and actually enjoy confusing straight guys with my clothes, but if you're looking for a nice, reliable husband type, then tone it down. I'm gonna keep holding out for a dude in studded men's Loubs.

But for you Katy, here are two sing, dance and sweat-proof, sexy-as-hell, but not try-too-hard-y, first date outfits that I think your new man would love.

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AE Boyfriend Tuxedo Jacket, $60. T by Alexander Wang Dress, $155. Bertie Ankle Boot, $170. Forever 21 necklace, $16.

Curve-hugging and comfortable, this jersey dress is perfect for a first date. Pair it with a statement necklace and a tuxedo jacket, then finish with flat boots to avoid looking high maintenance.

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J Crew Blythe Blouse, $98. Rag & Bone Waxed Legging Jeans, $100. Gerard Yosca Necklace, $50. Madewell Skimmers, $100.

OK, Madeline says this isn't feminine enough, but I'm telling you, dudes lose their shit over button-downs. And the waxed skinnies I own, so I can vouch for their unrivaled ass-cupping, leg thinning fit. Since you want to wear flats, go with leopard -- a man-pleaser -- and top it all off with a flirty accessory like the necklace above.

Now I want to hear what you wear on first dates? Do you dress for yourself or for the person you're seeing? Oh, and what about body enhancing underthings like my new obsession Booty Pops? Let's talk.

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