"I only like brunettes" and "I'm not attracted to blondes" are lines that nearly every dude who I've ever been involved with has used on me at some point.
Olivia says this happens to her all the time as well. It's a crazy claim really -- only being into one hair color -- and sort of suggests that we brunettes are second-class hair citizens who need to be reassured of our attractiveness. Not so, in my case. I rarely change the color of my hair, except to go slightly darker (but I'm open to experimenting with purple or something).
Still, it does seem that blond hair is often put on a hotness pedestal. It's bright; it's eye-catching; and it's also somewhat of a status symbol. Have you noticed the correlation between light hair and fame? Beyonce and Jennifer Lopez are prime examples -- both naturally dark haired women who have lightened their hair significantly since the start of their careers.
Then there's the "blondes have more fun" adage, which Emily is going to explore in an upcoming article. We'll see.
As someone who has a specialist for everything, it's sort of a relief not to use one for my color. Not that there's anything wrong with high maintenance hair. Cat's blond for example, requires its own team of experts, namely Zoe Weipert at Bumble and Bumble.
I just have a few products that I rely on to keep my hair thick and glossy, and make sure that my brown doesn't turn brassy. Here's what I love:
Redken Intra Force Shampoo and Toner: Ignore the product to the left, I don't use that. This is Redken's new collection for color-treated thinning hair. It promises thicker, fuller hair in 30 days, which sounds like a load of beauty lies, but it's totally working for me -- someone with the limp, wispy hair of a newborn -- not sexy. The shampoo gets my hair clean and removes all the build-up without stripping. Most conditioning products either do nothing or weigh my hair down, but when I use the toner, it maintains some volume, while still adding shine. I really do credit these two with bulking up my thin veil of hair and I've tried everything in the thickening genre.
John Frieda Brilliant Brunette Luminous Color Glaze, $10: I've written about this a million times, and given it to all of my dark haired friends because it's that good. It takes out the brassiness and leaves hair all shiny and shakeable. Seriously, use this stuff three or four times a week and you'll never need a professional glaze again. You could even use it daily. I always get color compliments when I do.
Amika Obliphica Oil Treatment, $34: Ugh, this is kind of expensive, but my hair gets a pubic-looking veil of frizz when I skip it. GROSS! It's essentially super-charged argan oil packed with lots of extra vitamins, antioxidants and omegas that make for super-silky hair. And shine is key with brunette; it brings out the color.
Now let's talk about your hair color. There's a whole spectrum in between blonde and brunette that I want to discuss. What hair-centric lines have dudes used on you? Did they work? Also, do you feel stereotyped by your hair color? And what products do you use to keep it looking awesome? Let's go!
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