STOP THINKING ABOUT IT AND DO IT: A Short-Hair Pep Talk For All Women

Climbing out from under the crushing weight of all those rules about short hair is one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done, and I want other women to do it, too.

Jul 25, 2014 at 4:00pm | Leave a comment

I recently received the best haircut I've ever had in my entire life, and it's very short.  
 
Having really short hair has drastically improved my life, and that is no exaggeration. I feel more like myself than I have in a long time. I know lots of women struggle with unreasonable attachment to their long hair, and spend an inordinate amount of time literally agonizing over whether they should cut it short or not. May I kindly suggest: If you feel like doing it, you should JUST. DO. IT.
 
Life is too short to spend hours jacking around with a giant mop of hair if you don't feel like it, especially if you're just holding on to it because you think it's making you more feminine or more desirable or hiding some perceived flaw. And on the subject of hiding flaws: Don't listen to any one (actual person you know, internet article, etc.) who tells you that you don't have "the right figure" or the "right face shape" or the right anything for short hair. Those are lies.  
 
If you're not thin, long hair is not making you look any more thin than you actually are, I promise. All it's doing is eroding your confidence, because you're only holding onto it based on thoughts about what you're "supposed" to do, and obsessing about all of the things that you think would need to change in order to have the thing that you want.
 
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The only thing standing between me and a man-less, fat existence

 
I'm sure some people (men) would read this and think that it's much ado about nothing, but as a life-long woman (and former hairstylist who has done many a pixie cut on many terrified women), I know for a fact that this is a legitimate struggle for many out there. That's why a quick Google search for "women with short hair" or "should i cut my hair short," will return an astounding number of results, usually falling into one of three categories:
 
1) discussion of why men don't like women with short hair (look at all these f***s I give!)
 
2) dissection of what "type" of woman can pull off short hair, and then articles that attempt to give a pep talk, but still manage to remind all the fatties and round-face-havers that they should really keep some extra length, you know, for hiding their big giant fat faces behind.
 
3) And don’t forget to not look a lesbian!  
 
It's a loaded issue. It just is. Only the most perfect little manic pixie dream girls are “allowed” to have short hair. Well, screw that. Climbing out from under the crushing weight of all those rules about short hair is one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done, and I want other women to do it, too.
 
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Pile of hair, or pile of failure as a woman?

 
All I'm trying to say is this, ladies: You only live once. Please don't spend your precious time focusing on what other people think of your hair.  Just get the haircut you want and continue living your life, like a boss.
 
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The level of freedom happening here is equivalent to an image of a bald eagle grasping the American flag in its liberty-talons.