OK, so you got slimed by a racist/sexist/classist on the DL. You are now tasked with having to skilfully deflect the slime splatter from yourself, and if possible, educate them that you are not like them.
When I hear another woman going on about her ring, her engagement -- I want to say ‘Stop that! Don’t let on that this stupid bullshit has any real relevance to us!’ Like there is some gender war going on and some women are giving up secrets to the other side.