makeover shows
I didn't assume that a makeover show would be an enlightening journey of intellectual pursuits, but it didn't have to be this bad.
race
I’ve lost count of how many white editors have asked me to write about Ferguson. My first answers were along the lines of “I’ll try if I can stop crying,” or “I really don’t have much to say beyond THIS IS HORRIBLE.”
in

Aug 21, 2014 at 2:00pm | 87 comments

racism
I bent down to make eye contact with the boy, who was still sitting and staring straight ahead. I said, “I’m gonna tell them what I saw, but I don’t want to put words in your mouth." He cut me off: “They won’t listen to me anyway.”
rape
mass murder
valentine's day
Is it unreasonable for me to want to share my life with someone? And, if we accept that perhaps it is not, is it understandable that a holiday dedicated to romance could intensify that desire and underline what is missing?
racism
Your experience starts a dialogue; sure. But not every conversation needs to be entertained without you doing some homework on your own first.
in

Jan 29, 2014 at 11:00am | 969 comments

age
“You look great for your age!” Gee, thanks. And then, if the person in question is lovely and self-aware, it only gets worse: “I mean—not that you’re OLD—you’re totally not—it’s just—well hey, 40 is the new 30, right?” Please stop talking.
in

Jan 27, 2014 at 12:00pm | 186 comments

sadness
Sometimes what people refer to as “positivity” is actually denial. I’m all for having a positive attitude, but I have also battled major depression and I’ve had enough of people scolding me in the name of “positivity” if I express a negative emotion.
thighs
I have never been set on fire, but I imagine that pain to be slightly less than what I felt immediately.
in

Dec 6, 2013 at 12:00pm | 81 comments