mass murder
valentine's day
Is it unreasonable for me to want to share my life with someone? And, if we accept that perhaps it is not, is it understandable that a holiday dedicated to romance could intensify that desire and underline what is missing?
racism
Your experience starts a dialogue; sure. But not every conversation needs to be entertained without you doing some homework on your own first.
in

Jan 29, 2014 at 11:00am | 969 comments

age
“You look great for your age!” Gee, thanks. And then, if the person in question is lovely and self-aware, it only gets worse: “I mean—not that you’re OLD—you’re totally not—it’s just—well hey, 40 is the new 30, right?” Please stop talking.
in

Jan 27, 2014 at 12:00pm | 186 comments

sadness
Sometimes what people refer to as “positivity” is actually denial. I’m all for having a positive attitude, but I have also battled major depression and I’ve had enough of people scolding me in the name of “positivity” if I express a negative emotion.
thighs
I have never been set on fire, but I imagine that pain to be slightly less than what I felt immediately.
in

Dec 6, 2013 at 12:00pm | 81 comments

exercise
race
I never expected to go home with him for the holidays this year, nor did I expect any of our kisses to begin with Kay. But as much as I’ve seen photos of his family members and know their names, I did kind of expect that at least one of them might come to know mine.
halloween
I have a rule: I can express an opinion without dictating behavior. I now invite you to join me as I break that rule: You can’t wear an ethnicity as a costume. You just can’t.
racism
The words ‘Harriet Tubman Sex Tape’ first stank up my Twitter feed in the middle of an otherwise calm afternoon, and I really couldn’t believe my eyes. I clicked on a tweet about it and the still images alone turned my stomach.