All we needed was my dad’s permission and a bunch of paperwork, and I could be on his health insurance, live with him senior year, and most importantly, cut down on or completely eliminate contact with my dad.
ihtm
eating disorders
Making rent each month meant planning every expense down to the cent and food was one of the only things that wasn't a fixed cost. So increasingly I found myself cutting it out of my budget, and just not organizing to have something to eat every day.
memoirs
Although I had kind of become numb to what I was writing about, I was still aware that other people would be at least a little shocked. Abortion. Gangbang. Orgy. These are words that get people’s attention.
ihtm
How could my cherished and super-lovely professional boyfriend have pined for a woman who made a career out of selling sex?
And if she fucked guys for a living, was she far better in bed than me?
fwb
Seriously, how hard could it be to find a f*&#-buddy?
girls gone wild
I was 18, it was Mardi Gras, and I'd never heard of Joe Francis, a man with the moral constitution of a bowel movement.
cheating
I’ve been happily married for five years and the sex with my wife is great, I just gave into an impulse.
bad mothers
Some years, I've spent the day crying on the couch, watching bad cable and eating takeout Chinese food.
ihtm
I will tell you, when someone commits a felony in order to no longer share their life with you, it’s a big, fat, fucking “FUCK YOU!” with a judge’s approval.
sex
I am addicted to the pursuit and the reward of first time sex. I lack the skills and know-how to cultivate a sustained sexual relationship with someone I care for over a long period of time.
boston marathon
There are lots of pictures that are too graphic to publish. Even on the Internet. I have to look at them anyway.
condom
He waited until he was putting on a condom to inform me that he’d “never done this before.”
it happened to me
I didn’t win Jane’s IHTM contest, but your comments were so sweet, I couldn’t leave you hanging.
mental health
I was fidgety, inattentive, and had a hard time putting together sentences that were longer than one or two words. According to my doctors, this was "good," because it was a sign that my medication was working.
best friends
Ending a tight friendship as an adult is similar to ending a romantic relationship in that it’s a major life change.
strippers
I’d been scanning Craigslist for part-time gigs and came across an ad that seemed too good to be true: “Beautiful college girls sought for nightclub modeling. Receive up to $1000/night. Email pics.”
rape
The hardest part about dealing with the aftermath rape, for me, has not been sex. It’s been dating.
sxsw
Today everyone in classes chatted about how fun SXSW was, while I sat awkward and silent.
aka
Unless you're actually a member of a Black sorority, you'll never really know what it takes to get into one.
ihtm
Abuse is what happened to children left alone with evil stepfathers. Abuse wasn’t pushing your little brother’s hands away, again and again, until you finally just froze up and zoned out and let it happen.
ashley madison
I am in a 17-year-old marriage which is practically sexless. I wish I could blame this on my husband, but the truth is…it’s my fault.
parenting
Nobody bats an eye at the tongue-in-cheek “three-martini playdate,” but there is certainly plenty of side-eye to go around when discussing parenting and pot.
rape
I had no real context or knowledge of what happened in a legal or social sense. I just knew I had a fresh, healing tattoo, and that I hated the person who gave it to me.
pee
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